My daughter pinches herself when she is mad. Does anyone know what I can do?


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My nephew used to bite himself when he was angry. It comes from the frustration of not being able to get their point across. Once they develop a bit more and start to be able to communicate better & also seperate / deal with their emotions a bit better it stops. Just don't react to it. The more fuss you make the more you will reinforce that it is effective for her & the more she will do it.

Julie - posted on 09/19/2010




well at least she's not hurting anyone but herself. beleive she wont do it that hard that really causes herself pain. it is a form of a tantrum and she will grow out of it just make sure in the mean time that she doesnt get too etreme with it. avoidance tactics are good when you see her starting to get upset take her mind off the situation with a different activity or staory or sometime sjust a cuddle.

Amanda - posted on 09/14/2010




If shes a toddler, its a normal stage. Just dont make a big deal about it, once she hurts herself, and isnt getting the reaction she wants out of you she will stop the pinching herself.


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Heather - posted on 02/18/2013




What are your views on slapping your toddles hand when she pulls hair?? And not hard just to get attention..

Heidi - posted on 09/20/2010




It's a phase she's going through. My daughter went through the same type of thing. Except she would scratch. When she would get mad at me or her dad or daycare teacher, she would scratch. It happened for a couple months and then it was a different kind of tantrum. It changes all the time.

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