Colleen - posted on 09/16/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am a single mom. My daughter, who turned 8 this June, has severe anaphylactic peanut allergies. In March, we have been trying over a month to get her to sit at the peanut free table provided by the school. She absolutely refused. When they put her back there she ran back out to the peanuts. I have went to the school and put her back there every time she tried to sit somewhere. We have tried getting someone to sit with her at the table but she still refuses. I tried finding out why she doesn't want to sit there and she just tantrumed and scratched me. I tried rewards and consequences. They tried getting her to eat at the office and she fights them off physically and runs to the cafeteria.
I was told to homeschool her with this kind of behavior. So I did for 3 months and for the entire school year, she refused to learn. I got her a homeschooling tutor (teacher). She was kicking and screaming for two months of homeschooling and hurt me and the tutor. As a result, As her tantrums and violence progressed, privilege confiscation progressed. It got to the point where she has nothing but a mattress, blanket pillow and just a few clothes and no privileges. During homeschooling months, she was being tested for ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) we saw for different psychiatrists who said she did not have ODD. She was also like this for the entire summer saying she will do this until she goes back to school.
We have been seeing a psychologist during the summer to talk with her. While talking to the psychologist by herself, she falsely accused me of abuse. The psychologist did what she was required to do, call CPS. My daughter was taken from me and put in foster care. I don't have any visitation with her. One reason is because she tantrums about visitation and refuses to go. They do not force her. She says she hates me and doesn't want to come back to live with me. She has been in school over a month and sits where she wants.