Tammy - posted on 10/25/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
We have had behavior issues with my daughter since pre-school. She has been diagnosed with ADHD since kindergarten and recently was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and Conduct Disorder. Her behavior issues started with lying and doing things behind our back and have escalated in the last 2 years to sneaking our and leaving our house now 5 times (first two times she was gone for a few hours and the last 2 times she was gone overnight), using my husband's credit card to charge over $700 in electronics, and constantly lying to get what she wants. It is so confusing because she is so loving when she is around us and she's never "in your face" about any of these things - it's all behind our backs. She's also having unprotected sex with multiple partners and has started smoking pot about a year ago. Nothing we have done has helped - we have grounded her, taken away things, not let her do things she really wanted to do - but I think she has just become used to all the punishments. Honestly the punishments we've used never have seemed to work, but we are not going to stop punishing her or give in. We've tried counseling, various (pretty much all) ADHD medicines. We have switched her school the last two years. The first time it was because she was basically expelled for a social media communication between her and another girl. Last year it was because of several factors (mostly environment increased her bad behaviors). Earlier this week my husband and I found out that she had been suspended from school for 4 days for excessive tardies but she had not told us and was pretending to go to school but was being picked up there and doing other things. This morning my husband and I woke up and she was gone (now for the 5th time) and she has yet to come home. We love our daughter so much and want to do what's best for her. I just wish I knew what that was. Any help is appreciated.