My daughter states she is transgender and will be starting testrone in a few weeks. She will be leaving for college in August. How do I handle this?



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Jane - posted on 09/01/2013




Hi Mary Beth
My 14 year old has just told me she is transgender and understand how you feel.
I am not coping with it well at all. I pretend to her and to my husband that everything is okay but its not.
There is nothing we can do to get our daughters back, and we dont have to handle anything, it is there choice so let them make their own choices I suppose.
Im only new to this and hurting alot, if you wish to chat perhaps we can help each other. tks Jane (BROKEN MUM)

Krista - posted on 06/19/2012




I would recommend checking out PFLAG -- it's a group for parents, family and friends of lesbian, gay, bi and transgendered persons. They will have some good resources for you.

Keep in mind that this isn't the type of thing someone does lightly. If she's 17, and wants to change her outward gender in order to match her inward gender, then this is NOT a phase. She's serious. And the greatest gift you can give to her is to be supportive. Just talk to her and ask, "I love you and I want to support you through this. What do you need me to do?" She'll be in for a rough time from some people, as a lot of people really just do NOT understand transgenderism, so if you're in her corner, backing her up, it'll mean the world to her.

Good luck!

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