Angela - posted on 08/25/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am a divorced mom of 4 who has been in a lesbian relationship for the past 5 years. My partner is not what you would call the motherly type. She doesn't really hug them or show affection. She does fuss quite a bit and complains about them cleaning up all of the time. I have always been a neat person and for the most part my kids keep their rooms clean. The younger two share a small room so it's hard for them to even play. My son has a small room but she put the dogs on the room with him and demands he keep it near perfect because it's so close to the kitchen. It's an add on room that served as an office before that has no door.
My 18 year old can't wait to find her own place. My partner criticizes everything she does. Recently, she wanted me to make her and my son pay for their insurance and cell phones which is about 150 per month for each of them. They make minimum wage at part time jobs. I think it's a bit much but my partner is livid if they are late or say they don't have it.
She complains that we don't have money for anything as if that is all of their fault.
I make decent money but she doesn't. She likes to shop and eat out a lot.
I am so torn. I don't want my daughter to leave. I want her to be able to save her money and attend college.
I am frankly sick of my partner's attitude. I am so stressed behind this.
I think our relationship is unhealthy but I don't even know where to begin to correct this mess.