My daughter was molested by her Biological dad been in and out of court all year ,they just granted him supervised visitiaion where he chose family members and friends she does not even know .She is scared out of her mind .We were not even consulted on supervisors needs to be someone she trusts so she is not afraid and feels safe .I am angry and at a loss at the moment how to protect my child from being preyed upon again I am so ready to have a mental break down the court system sucks and has failed to protect her .

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JazzyGirl - posted on 12/17/2015

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I don't understand why they would even give him any sort of custody if he molested her. I read the first line of this and my heart broke. I can't imagine how you feel. My heart goes out to you. For your sanity get counseling even family counseling for your daughter to deal with the issue. She needs someone to talk to. As far as in court continue to fight for your baby no matter what. Everything she tells you happens when she goes over there record it and the dates when it happens. If her behavior changes like she's not responding to things like she normally would or getting really emotional or moody record that. If she hasn't aged out get child protective services involved. If you don't know the contact information, look them up online in your state. I know this doesn't seem like much and you may feel helpless because you have no control over the courts decision, but do what you can for your baby. Does the court know that he did this and there still allowing him to see her? If not bring it to there attention and evidence like medical records from the hospital at the time of the incident if you have them, or any witnesses have them write letters if they're not available or testify. You can go back to court and do it again if you didn't the first get an attorney( there are low cost ones) and bring any new evidence if you can, what i mentioned earlier like behavior changes and such. Pull all your resources go to the local police station and even ask if they have advocates in court who deal with this sort of thing, not only that but now that I think of it can't he be arrested for that sort of thing. Anyways don't give up until you have done all that you can and then some. Hang in there Mommy I know it's tough but you have to be strong for your baby girl.

Sarah - posted on 12/15/2015

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You say there was not evidence to prosecute him criminally, That is different from DCFS or CPS standards of evidence to protect a child's safety. Even though he was not tried and sent to jail, CPS has given him supervised visitation (so they must recognize he is some sort of threat to your child). Never, have I seen a parent just randomly pick the supervisors. Yes, a father can ask that his mother or best friend be the supervisor but CPS has to approve the selection. In my experience, most often children of suspected abusers will have supervisors at there visits who are social workers, CASA workers and family members that have been cleared by the court and don't have any particular loyalty to the parent in question.

Jodi - posted on 12/14/2015

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So why was her testimony not acceptable? And is she in counselling? If not, she should be and if she is, have her talk to her counsellor about her feelings in relation to going with dad and people she doesn't know. A qualified counsellor can most likely make a report that will stop it happening if it is not going to be in her best interests.

Jodi - posted on 12/14/2015

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She said there wasn't enough evidence to prosecute him......but if there wasn't enough evidence to prosecute him, but I would imagine the daughter was old enough to describe what happened to her.

Sarah - posted on 12/14/2015

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I have been at many DCFS or CPS cases. When a child discloses abuse and it is founded to be true, that parent would not get visitation at all until treatment was completed. then it would be supervised by appointees of the court, not just random people he picks. So unless his charge was unfounded, this makes no sense at all.

Ev - posted on 12/14/2015

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I just find this a bit odd that the judge did not appoint anyone that was nuetral to do this or in a neutral location. My sister's one ex went to jail for statutory rape or something akin to that charge. His first cousin who was married to our first cousin had offered to facilitate visits for him and my niece. Because of his record and being a sex offender, my sister was not for it. I do not know how he even was allowed around other kids at this point and time. She did not allow my niece to see him because of his record and conviction etc. Today as far as we know he has remarried and has a couple of other children that he can not raise as of his status. His inlaws have to raise his children.

Ev - posted on 12/14/2015

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{{My daughter was molested by her Biological dad been in and out of court all year ,they just granted him supervised visitiaion where he chose family members and friends she does not even know }}--Your original post says he gets supervised visits!

{{The protection order states that one of the 6 people appointed as people to observe the visitation have to be in the car when he comes to pick her up. He also has to provide us with an itinerary of what he will be doing for the 4 hours.}}--Who are the six people. And usually the court appoints the person supervising the visit. He would not or should not have had the chance at the request for whom he wanted.

Michelle - posted on 12/14/2015

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There was not enough evidence to prosecute him and the Detective said it is very common these men get away with this and walk away alot for lack of evidence but the have no idea what the state or Judge are thinking not about her safety for sure.

Fabiola - posted on 12/14/2015

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Why does father have visits with his daughter after molesting her? Thats just crazy

Michelle - posted on 12/14/2015

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The protection order states that one of the 6 people appointed as people to observe the visitation have to be in the car when he comes to pick her up. He also has to provide us with an itinerary of what he will be doing for the 4 hours.

Ev - posted on 12/14/2015

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What do the court ordered visitation orders say? You said he has supervised visits. Meaning she should not be riding in a car alone with him to the visit but being taken to the visit with him by another person who is appointed by the courts to be there so she is not alone with him. They are not friends or family of the father. Or they should not be.

Michelle - posted on 12/14/2015

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They are where ever he wants to go have no idea how they were chosen and out Lawyer in on the verge of getting fired has no clue .She is suppost to get in a car with this man and go off with the people who are supervising them so messed up .What do you mean third party? Pretty much my only option at this point is to get arrested refusing to let her go with him not going to just sit back andl et her be hurt again.

Ev - posted on 12/14/2015

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Why did you not request a third party to be there that is assigned by the court? You could have asked for that. Usually though, they do that. No one from family or friends are picked to be there for supervised visits. Where do the visits take place?

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