Anne - posted on 02/24/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
Her cousin was 10 at the time but the abuse continued for approximately a year so it went on while she was also 11. My daughter told me when she was 11. She is now 15 and doing well. I 100% believed her and supported her. I am in Australia and here it is mandatory for DOCS to be informed if I wanted her to receive counselling. So I let my brother and his wife know this was going to happen but as usual DOCS didn't handle it well and my niece has walked away denying everything of course. Her family are now treating me and my daughter as though we have done something wrong yet they still expect us to attend their family events. They have two other daughters who are recently married and engaged but these events are hell for me and my daughter but no one else in my family really understands ie. my parents and extended family. My sister is pretty good. We are still expected to show up and be happy but it is so hard. I still feel a lot of anger that my niece has walked away without taking any responsibility for this and that her family is supporting her as the victim while my daughter and I are treated so poorly. I have been seeing a therapist for this but still have very little support. I guess I was just reaching out here to see if anyone else had a similar story or some words of encouragement. I have heard a lot about sexual abuse by men or boys but not girls. I know it happens more often than we know though. Oh and my ex? He says he believes my daughter but he has stayed in close contact with my brother and nieces as he still lives near them but I moved away. As you can expect he doesn't have a good relationship with my daughter!