Hayley - posted on 01/26/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )
My older daughter is 13 years old while the other one is almost 12 years old - they are two years apart and have a healthy relationship with each other and with both have a good relationship with both parents. My younger child has complained to me that two girls - one in her grade, and another one is a year older than them has been bullying, harassing, and intimidating her. The girls call her names, taunt her, pull her hair, etc. and the older girl has threatened to write some rumors about her on social media. I've reported this to the administrators at the school and have clearly explained that some tween girls at school bully her. My older girl has received bullying messages from the same girls too and they have a big group of friends outside of school. I shut down her social media accounts, monitored her texts/calls, and set some strict limits for her. The school has called the girls' parents SEVERAL times and set up a bunch of parent-teacher meetings to talk about the issues but the parents do not seem to care at all and sets no limits for their children. They bully my daughters for "having less nicer clothes, and not being allowed to do anything". The statement isn't true, but however these students seem to think that because their parents and legal guardians let them spend as much money as they want and is allowed to party with college kids/adults 18+. I do not allow my kids to party without any adult supervision and I don't always buy my children whatever they want and have absolutely no boundaries/limits. Just today, my 13 year old got into a fight with a college freshman on the school grounds. I am VERY shocked that this happened, and my kids said that one of the girls might've said something about them and a group of older teens and young adults hung around after school - there isn't any specific rules about strangers entering the school grounds in our school district, but I will call the police if girls as young as around 11-12 up to 18-20 are tormenting my daughters. They think that we're "poor" because they don't wear super expensive garments to school, nor do they party and drink. What seems to me is that these girls' parents (the ones that are under 18) are not responsible enough to set some limits because they refused to listen when all of us parents had meetings about the ongoing incidents and they talk about things an adult would be mature enough for - raving, nightclubs, sex, late night parties, etc. and yet they comment that my children are very childish and poor because they don't "drink and party", this comment actually came from an 11 year old 6TH GRADER. Any ideas on handling this situation?!