Haley - posted on 07/15/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
My 17 yr old daughter has been off and on with a 20 yr old guy for almost a year, they went to the Beach to celebrate their one year where they met and within 2 days they had a fallen out and vacation for her was over. This is guy is absolutely good to her as far as buying her things and taking her places but he is extremely controlling when it comes to where she can go with friends and what she can wear so she gave up on doing things with friends and she gave up taking care of herself like she use to, I think just to make him happy. While at beach he drank and yelled at her in front of his friends, because its ok to be with "his" friends, all over her bathing suit top pulled up on her and showed a little of her breast (obviously not on purpose) and he took a screaming fit and embarrassed her in front of everyone so she left. When they finally ended up at condo together he kept throwing rolled up socks at her face, and poured shampoo all over her, called her terrible names and told her to jump off balcony and die plus put her in a headlock so she had to look at his hand that he punched something with because "that was her fault too". She left with family that lived by beach and then he texts her and basically he takes none of the blame. She is so sad and I dont understand why?? Why would she want to be with someone so mean and controlling. And I am so sad because she is and all I really want her to do is be strong and forget him, he is not worth the tears. If she would be strong we would both feel better but shes so so upset, what can I do?