My daughters dad is in and out of jail, and on and off drugs and alcohol. He has seen her maybe once or twice a year, but she is asking about him. She is almost 7. What do I tell her about why she can't see her dad? And am I right for keeping her away?

Jessica - posted on 04/12/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daugher is almost 7. I haven't been with her dad since she was a baby. He was abusive to me. He has been in and out of jail, and on and off drugs and alcohol her whole life. She has seen him maybe once or twice a year through his mom, but recently she is asking a lot of questions. She says she misses him and why can't she see him. I don't really want her being around him because of his short fuse, but I don't know what to tell her either. I tried telling her he just makes bad decisions, but she wants more details. What should I do?


Alicia - posted on 04/12/2012




I wouldn't keep her away, Just make sure when they spend time together they are not alone and she is in a safe enviroment for that meeting. Its always better to let them come to these decisions on there own. If you force that decision they will resent you for it. I know how hard it is to allow her to go but sometimes even the smallest of meetings make them happy because no matter what we do or how we feel now that is still Daddy and they need to know where they came from. I am by no means judging I know the boat you are in and from a legal stand point you have to allow the contact unless you have a order saying otherwise. Not allowing the visits could get you into real trouble if he was ever to fight it.

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