My daughters father and his new gf will not stop harrassing me! Tired.

Denise - posted on 10/07/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter is now 6mo and her father has yet to step up and be a father. I finally had to change my cell number because his new gf thought it would be appropriate to call me. Now all communication with my child's father is via email.

I most recently sat down to speak to my daughters father to see try to get to some kind of understanding and get him more involved in my daughters life. My daughter was a planned pregnancy so I'm not understanding how everything turned to shambles after only 11 weeks into my pregnancy.

Later that same day my daughters father, his new gf and I all ended up in the same place and she thought it would be appropriate to make a show to make me feel uncomfortable and to get my attention. I ignored her because I refuse to fuss with anyone over something I have no desire to have.

A few days later I saw her outside of our work building that we both share and I asked to speak to her. We sat and had an adult conversation. I reiterated to her that I do not have any interest in pursuing a relationship with my daughters father outside of simply co-parenting so there was no need to continuously focus all of her aggression out on me.

Even after her finding out he was cheating on her even now the harassment continues. Im so exhausted over it all. I just want to raise my daughter in peace. I wanted my daughter to know who her father is and for her to build a great relationship with him but it seems that's not going to happen. Im tired of trying. I just want to live in peace.

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Michelle - posted on 10/08/2016

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Maybe she thought it was a stable relationship. Who knows really. I thought my 1st marriage would be one to last and it didn't.

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Sarah - posted on 10/08/2016

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Thanks Michelle, but who plans a pregnancy within an unstable relationship? Isn't that what marriage is really all about?

Michelle - posted on 10/08/2016

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Sarah: The OP and him were together, planned the pregnancy and he left when she was 11 weeks pregnant.
He has since been with the new GF but has been cheating on her with other women, not the OP.
That's how I understand the post. It is a bit all over the place though.

Sarah - posted on 10/08/2016

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I am baffled by these two statements:
1. "My daughter was a planned pregnancy" and then:
2."Even after her finding out he was cheating on her even now the harassment continues.."
What the heck, you had him planning on conceiving baby outside of his relationship? How messed up is that!

Jodi - posted on 10/07/2016

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I'm a bit confused. What is he harassing you about if he isn't wanting to spend time with his child? Or is this him wanting a relationship with his child but just not on your terms?

I agree with Shawnn, what do your court orders say?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/07/2016

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What are your court orders? You don't get to dictate terms for the child's father, and if you would stop dictating and get either a mediator or judge involved, there would probably be a better chance of him agreeing.

You can't force him to do anything, but you do need custody, support, and visitation orders

Michelle - posted on 10/07/2016

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You can't make someone step up and be a Father, that has to come from them. Maybe if you stop contacting him she will back off.
You also need to go to court and get custody, visitation and child support sorted out. That way everyone knows where they stand.

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