My daughters father moved away at the beginning of the year, he hardly texts or calls to see how she is doing. He gives me money each month (after I hassle him for it) Now all of a sudden he wasnts to come back into her life. There has been a history of violence when I was pregnant with her. He put me in hospital but I stayed with him until I finally got the confidence to leave. Is there anything I can do to stop him coming into our lives and putting her through the heart ache of coming and going as he pleases?

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Gwen - posted on 10/12/2012

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If you have documentation of violence, file for a restraining order. Then call an attorney find out what steps you need to take to get court ordered child support and supervised visitation orders in place. Until you do have something legally binding to back you up, you don't have much ground to stand on.

Dove - posted on 10/12/2012

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That will definitely help. You definitely need to look into getting a lawyer though. Good luck!

Loren - posted on 10/12/2012

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There are hospital records for him putting me in there, as social services got involved. I do worry for her safety too as he has drink and drug problems in the past and has a criminal record for it too.

Dove - posted on 10/12/2012

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He has a history of violence with you, but is it a documented history? Does he have a history of violence with HER? You may be able to avoid dealing with him directly, but unless you have solid proof that he's a danger to her.... he will get visitation rights and possibly joint custody (depending on the judge). You need a lawyer. The lawyer may be able to get his visitations supervised if you have enough evidence against him.

Kelly - posted on 10/12/2012

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I can relate about historyof violence,also,when I was pregnant with Allison,my now 7 yr old. Are you afraid of him hurting her or you? You get a no contact order and tell the judge you can't trust him at this point. Domestic shelter can hook you up with attorney's , and advocates for DV. This is a court matter because he as her father has the right to see her untill court papers are filed. But also if he has a history , they may side with you. I don't know your whole story but I bet your afraid of him still. I am still afraid of my abuser. I shake when I have to talk to him about Ali. I need to go back to therapy because I can't seem to get past it. But I keep putting it off, and I really need to talk about the abuse, and how violated my kids and I were. The justice system let us down, but I am back on my feet trying to cope in a healthy way. I wish you all well ♥

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