My daughters grandparents are alcoholics and we got into a big argument a couple weeks ago. I want to keep my daughter away from them how should i go about it?

Cortney - posted on 10/18/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Two weeks ago my daughter and i went to my boyfriends parents house. They drink all the time to the point where they get drunk. So his sisters boyfriend smokes pot all the time and i don't like my daughter around that stuff. My baby was upstairs sleeping with the windows open and my boyfriends dad and his sisters boyfriend wanted to go outside to smoke so i said very politely... "do i need to close paytons windows?" his whole family started arguing with me calling me names... Basically tormenting me. I had to lock myself upstairs with my daughter and call the cops to get myself out of the house. My boyfriend and i talked it out but i really don't want to go back to his parents house. And I definitely don't want my daughter there but he has a problem with that. What should i do??????

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Jennifer - posted on 10/20/2012

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Do not allow grandparents to be disrespectful to you. Kids should not see this, they need to learn moms/women are to be respected. If grandparents bcome inappropriate in your home or a publc place: ask them to leave your house/call 911 if they refuse. If U are in public, just take the kids and leave. It is a privilidge for grandparents to see your daughter. If they abuse it, then they should not see your daughter. Think what is best for your daughter, not what is best for grandparents. Don't put dau.ghter in toxic situation w/grandarents

Ariana - posted on 10/19/2012

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How far away do they live? If they live close by I would visit them for a certain peroid of time and then leave. Or invite his parents out for dinner or over to your house where you can be in charge of the rules of the house (no smoking inside etc.). If you don't want them drinking while they're over don't buy beers for that night if you drink. Say you ran out or something.



If they are being irresponsible around your children it is up to you to make sure your kids aren't around anything crazy. That being said if there is a way for you to do this without having to get into some sort of brawl or totally keep the grandparents from the kids go with that route.



My best bet would be to invite them to your house or dinner, somewhere outside of the house.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/18/2012

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Well, I would definitely make some distance. I agree with not going over there for a while and letting things cool off a bit. If they want to see their grandkid, just say you have plans to go to the park and they are more than welcome to come. YOu feel like it is a dangerous environment for your kid, you really need to make that clear to your boyfriend and figure something out that will work for you both.

Cortney - posted on 10/18/2012

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Yes they are the biological grandparents that's why it's so hard for me to keep her away from them. My boyfriend is acting like such a jerk saying that i need to just drop it but idk how i am supposed to drop something like that!

S. - posted on 10/18/2012

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I wouldn't go back at all, I'd tell them if they want their welcome to visit the grandchild at your house were it's your rules!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/18/2012

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Are they the bio grandparents? If not, just don't go back.

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