my daughters loss of a grandparent, help!

Ashley - posted on 11/02/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello. My oldest daughter is 8 and this past June she lost her grandfather. She was extremely close to him and saw him almost every day. She was there with us when we went though Cemo, and was there when he went on hospice, and was at his bedside when he passed. At first I thought she was okay, I knew she was upset ut she really didnt talk much about it. Now, I think she has realized he is really gone. If the stars are not out at night she panicks, she will randomly be upset and she will go to her room. She picks fights with my husband, she will go though spells of not eating. I have her in therapy and she goes once a week, and my husband has sat with her alone and they have cried together and spoke of him. She knows that she can come to me with anything I tell her that over and over. I just feel so lost...it doesnt help either that my husbands oldest brother showed his true colors with this loss and they told my daughter that my husband is not her biological dad (he adopted her). please someone, I dont know what else to do.

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Michelle - posted on 11/02/2013

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It's hard for anyone to watch someone the love die. I was an adult when I was there for my grandfather and it's still fresh in my mind.
She has seen a lot that most 8yo would not even know about and it's a lot to deal with. She has seen some thing even adults can't cope with.

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Ashley - posted on 11/02/2013

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shes a family therapist I took her there because I didnt know what was exactly wrong at first...I thought she was upset because she has been having problems with a couple kids at school and getting picked on. But thank you for that I will be on that right away!

Michelle - posted on 11/02/2013

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Does the therapist she's seeing specialize in grief counseling? She needs someone trained in how to help children through the whole grieving process.

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