My daugter wants to change her last name

Gloria - posted on 08/09/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter who is almost 17 yrs old has been raised by my husband since she was 2yrs old. Her father has not been very active in her life. He has never supported her financially. He moved out of state when she was 7 yrs old been in and out of jail, this last time he was incarcerated for 9 months. My husband has been the father figure most of her life he is very involved with her. She is very close to my husbands family. Lately she has been mentioning to me that she would like to change her name. She feels no connection with her fathers family she feels different. She is very close to my husbands family. She said that she feels more rooted towards my husbands family. She is going to call her biological father and tell him what she wants to do. I know they will give her a lot of flack for it. But truth is he has never been there for her. How should I handle this situation.

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Ev - posted on 08/09/2016

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I think I might have found you an answer called adult adoption. Here is a link that gives a summarized view of the reasons behind adopting an adult and it can be for inheriance reasons or even formalizing a relationship of a adult child with the one they call parent.

https://www.legalzoom.com/articles/can-you-legally-adopt-an-adult

Michelle - posted on 08/09/2016

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Like Jodi said, once she's 18 she can go to the courts and change her name to whatever she wants. That would be a lot easier. It's only another year.

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Gloria - posted on 08/09/2016

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Im not sure how that would work either. My husband would love to adopt her and give her his last name. He doesn't want to pressure in any way. She explained to him that doing this would make her feel complete.

Gloria - posted on 08/09/2016

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Yes, her biological father would have to sign off on it. She is really pushing the issue and wants to tell her father.

Jodi - posted on 08/09/2016

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I'm pretty sure she is going to have to get her biological father's permission. Once she is 18, she can do whatever she wants to her name.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/09/2016

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How does your husband feel about this? I think he would need to adopt her in order to make it legal? Not really sure how this works.

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