Annette - posted on 09/21/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
God I always knew being a mum would have its challenges but recently I feel I am dealing with someone with a mental illness. My beloved daughter is about to turn 14 and has turned into someone I don't even recognize. There has been a slow progression and skipping school once, then burning stuff in her room with her friend...now to refusing to be part of the family. Doesn't want to engage with me at all, refuses to do her paid chores, eat and interact with me in any way. Last night it got to the point I smacked her arse and dragged her to her room and she went to bed. I hated that I lost my temper and let her get the better of me. I have a delightful 16yo old boy and a 10yo boy as well...they are great! I am worried as this just seems to be the tip of the ice berg with threats of running away now happening. I have tried everything, all the typical restrictions, no tv, no phone, no internet or FB, grounding, reasoning with her, being tough. Even the school counselor. She doesn't swear at me or hit me, but some times I just want to knock her down. She think the gangster life style is for her and that I am to strict. I know I am a good mum but god this is exhausting. I have done a bit of research on teens, I understand the formation of the teen brain and that they don't function on rational thought...but how in the hell do parents get through this??...one day at a time I guess.