My doctor just told me that my 8-month son needs physical therapy. I am freaking out-am I a bad Mom?

Sharon Spencer - posted on 10/22/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son came 4 weeks early and I have struggled to get him up to weight, not jaundiced, etc. I thought he was doing fine...happy,healthy baby. Starting to crawl, standing assisisted, starting to talk. The only problem was that he was noy sitting on his own, and that crawling seemed slow. The doctor told me that my son was bright enough to get him in trouble- that his mind wanted more than his body may be capable of. I am sick and scared- please, I need advice.

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Janelle - posted on 10/25/2012

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I hope you are feeling better Sharon. Thank you for your positive comments. Glad I was able to help in some way. All the best Janelle

Gwen - posted on 10/24/2012

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When I start feeling like I am a bad mom, I have to remind myself that bad moms abuse kids, neglect kids, throw away kids, ignore kids...I don't do any of those things! Good moms love their kids, feed their kids, care for their kids and encourage those kids. :) None of us are perfect, but your heart is in the right place and that's what counts.

Janelle - posted on 10/24/2012

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Try not to give yourself a hard time over your son. You sound like a very dedicated and loving mum and you're the only one that can (and will) fight for his cause. Ask your professional what therapy your son would benefit from and ones you can do at home as well. If your dr hasn't mentioned this already, I would enquire whether some kind of occupational therapy would help. I've heard great things about the different movements and exercises with OT. It makes great strides towards their development and you can do it at home. Get proper instruction first of course but every little bit helps! Motherhood can be a bit of a roller coaster ride sometimes LOL Anyway, no matter what, you will always love your little boy. All the best Sharon

Sharon Spencer - posted on 10/23/2012

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Thank yo so much. What you said was incredibly encouraging to me. I am trying so hard to be the Mom my son deserves, and this just felt like a slap in the face. People laugh when I say I get nervous at every doctor's appointment with him, but they seem to forget that at my 1st ever appointment w/ Logan the doctor took a blood test and told me to immediately go to the hospital-his bilirubin results were off the charts. We were in the hospital for a week with that one. Logan is 8 months old now and seems to be doing amazing and then this...trying to be strong.

Sharon Spencer - posted on 10/22/2012

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I thank you for responding. I live in a very rural area so you guys are I have. It was kind of you to respond...thank you.

Janelle - posted on 10/22/2012

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Sharon, please don't be scared! Sounds like you are giving yourself such a hard time. You have already been through enough to do that. Be kind to yourself now. I know it's very natural response to worry and panic. Yes premies need some help but that's not a bad thing. My son is delayed but I am working with a fantastic occupational therapist and he is doing much better) Anyway, if this is difinately the case for you, I think the earlier you assist him and give him the help he needs, the better. Early intervention is a positive thing don't let it scare you. You only help to improve their development. If you are doubting your doctors opinion at this time simply get another professional opinion. My father was born 1 month premature but it didn't stop him from becoming a commercial pilot! My girlfriend had a child born 3 months early and he is such a wonderful boy doing all the things a teenager does. He got his driving license the other month. Its amazing how much help there is out there today compared to the very limited options years ago. Don't be afraid to enquire about extra help. It's out there waiting for you. Best of luck Janelle

Ariana - posted on 10/22/2012

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These things happen. It's not your fault. I would listen to your doctor and try to get your son to some specialists who can help you figure out what you need to do to get everything going along.



The doctor said your son was a bright boy so he just needs a boost.

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