My DS is a bully

Erica - posted on 08/23/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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im starting to see the same characteristics in my own nine yr old . DS lives with his father, i m starting to see bullying attitude especially amongst his sibling. He has the most hatred one child can have for myself. I dont get it i visit him regularly and he hates me!
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i dont understand.....he doesnt see his counselor nearly often as what he should in my opinion. i feel as if his father hates me so will he.

my DS is a bully in my home when he visits. He has tried to throw stuff at me and doesnt care who's feelings he hurts. I wish i can know the right thing to do when a violent outbreak happens

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Jodi - posted on 08/23/2011

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What are you doing to stop it happening, or deal with it, while he is with you? And if the father is bullying, you need to document and have proof. How does the school know, and what has he done for them to draw this conclusion? If he is being a bully in the presence of the school, why is he not being reported?

Erica - posted on 08/23/2011

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his behaviour needs to stop in our home, I m trying very hard when he is with us on weekends to tame these outbreaks.

Jodi - posted on 08/23/2011

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Instead of blaming his father for the behaviour, either (1) get custody if you think there is violence in his father's home or (2) implement tough discipline in your home, making it VERY clear this is not acceptable in your home EVER, or (3) both. Honestly, you can't control what goes on in his other home, unless it is violent/physical or abusive (in which case, there ARE actions that can be taken), but you CAN discipline in your own home. So get to it. Sounds to me like you are trying to blame dad, and blame never got anyone anywhere.

Bri - posted on 08/23/2011

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well he is young and can pick up his behavior only what is taught to him you need to get this child out of that home quick! Bullying starts in the home, sibling, or parent (dr. phil says) tons of info videos on previous dr. phil 1 hour programs

Erica - posted on 08/23/2011

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his father is a bully the school even told me so he comes across as a bully to our DS.

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Sharlene - posted on 01/07/2012

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Hey Erica ,Can you sit down and talk to him or you and his BD and your DS go and have group counselling together .

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