Tia - posted on 05/10/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I feel so depressed right now,because I have finally come to the conclusion that there is nothing I can do to ever get my sons father to even remotely care about him.My son is 3 years old right now,and every Christmas and birthday that we spend together is a blessing,but during every event,I always think about how this is another year that my son goes without knowing his father.My ex left me for someone else while I was pregnant.
Since then he has not called me or made any kind of effort to see my son.I have called him many times during these past few years,and everytime he had some kind of excuse.One time when we talked he said he loved my son,and that he was finally going to come and meet him,but he ended up not coming.I was so angry with him,especially since he only lives an hour away from me.
Its like he is afraid to say that he just doesn't care,so he just continues to pretend to.I can't help,but to check his facebook page a lot,and I'm always looking to see if he posted any pictures of my son that I sent him,and everytime I find nothing.He acts like me and my son don't exist now,and so does his family.I know he regrets having a child with me and that's why he won't see my son.Sometimes I regret having a child with him,because now my son has a father who won't even meet him,and to add to things,every time I look at his facebook page,there are pictures up of his girlfriend,and he's all telling everyone how much he loves her.
He also makes sure that on her birthday or other people's birthday,he tells them Happy Birthday,but he has never even called me to tell my son Happy Birthday.He pays child support,but doesn't do anything else.I know I need to move on and stop expecting him to change,but its so hard,when I don't even have a boyfriend.I don't even have any kind of father figure for my son.I know people say that time heals all things,but I now feel like,it only gets worse and harder for me with each passing year.I haven't been doing good in my college classes lately,or at my job.Can someone please offer me some advice?