My ex doesnt ring my son

Dordy - posted on 03/02/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My ex thinks it should be my 6yr old sons job to call him instead of vise versa. He works 3 weeks on, 1 week off and sometimes he will see him 2 nights, but recently didnt even see him and didnt let me know he wasnt going to see him. He drinks a lot and focuses on women. I feel that my son is missing out. His dad says he loves him and buys him stuff, but I think his idea of love is different. I feel he should be putting in a little more effort..

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Ev - posted on 03/03/2015

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Jodi,

I agree on the encouragement of having son call dad but it should not have to fall to a child to make the effort. If dad is ignoring the calls that child must be feeling rather down about it.

Dordy,

You can not waste your time and energy trying to encourage this through dad. Its not your place to remind him of the visitation, phone calls, etc. If it is laid out in the custody or visitation, then the ex has to be the one to follow the schedule. Its going to weight you down as it will weigh down your son and seems to have done so if the boy is doing the calling and dad barely answers for whatever his reasons are.

Dordy - posted on 03/02/2015

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He does call him, but he doesn't answer most times. and you can tell when hes on the grog, because he ignores all calls.

Jodi - posted on 03/02/2015

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I agree that you can't control how much effort your ex puts in to seeing/communicating with your son.

However, having said that - is there any harm in you encouraging your son to call him?

Dordy - posted on 03/02/2015

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Yes Evelyn, That's exactly what I think. I put in the effort to encourage him to see his son, and I always work around his plans to make things easier. I worry that my son will eventually resent him for not putting in an effort. He has always done what benefits him and him alone. Very selfish. I always bite my tongue because I don't want to sound like one of these high maintenance ex's, but I feel he needs a little wake-up call..

Ev - posted on 03/02/2015

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You can not control how he keeps up contact with your son. Its up to him to make the contact not your 6 year old child. You should remind him he is the adult.

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