Carla - posted on 01/19/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
My ex-husband (separated by 5 years but not yet divorced) informed me and our 9-year old son on Oct 28'11 that he is seeing someone and informed us last night (Jan 18'12) that they are now engaged! My son is an only child and is used to having his father and I to himself. That said, it seems my son is being forced by his father and his girlfriend to accept and respect the girlfriend immediately and not being given a chance to get to know her. My son has said he no longer wants to go to his father's house because she is always there and he therefore won't get to spend time with him. He has said his father doesn't have time for him anymore. Be this accurate or not, that is how my son feels and his father is too busy calling his "greedy" and "selfish" to really listen to him. My son tells his father how he really feels and what he really thinks, but then ends up saying he is okay with their relationship, including them getting married. He is NOT okay with any of it in reality. I think he just says he is okay with it because he is afraid of losing his father. Does any have any advice on how I can support my little boy without seeming negative about his father's new relationship?