My ex-husbands wife will not allow my exhusband to communicate with me

Christina - posted on 08/24/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My ex-husband just got married, problem is his new wife is very controlling to the point where they have gotten into arguments if he talks to me without her knowing. We have 3 children together and the only way I can communicate with him is through her cell phone, she will not allow him to give me his cell phone number & I even suggested us getting an email going and they refuse ... she does not want me to have direct contact with him unless she is in the middle. It's very frustrating because she has to control overthing and it is ruining our coparenting relationship. I don't know what to do?

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Dove - posted on 08/24/2016

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I would not deal w/ her. HE could contact me, but I would not contact her and I would not allow her to contact me either.

I will add that SHE is not ruining your co-parenting though... He is... He's just allowing it to happen through her.

Definitely talk to your lawyer and get the order amended that communication is to be done between the biological parents directly.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/24/2016

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I would call your lawyer about this immediately and have this fixed. There may be no other way around it.

Michelle - posted on 08/24/2016

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I know some people have very detailed orders about communication so look into it.
I think your ex needs to grow a set and be a man. He shouldn't be letting her walk all over him.
Sorry if that's nasty but that's the way I see it.

Michelle - posted on 08/24/2016

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What do your court orders say about co parenting and communication?
You may have to get them changed to say that you and your ex are the only ones that can discuss the children.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/24/2016

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And back to court you go. She has absolutely no place dictating communication between parents.

Michelle - posted on 08/24/2016

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Good luck. It sounds like she could be jealous as well.
My Mum's 3rd husband would think that my Mum and Dad were having an affair whenever they spoke to each other about us kids. He wouldn't even be in the same room as my Dad. Absolutely pathetic is you ask me. I have been doing shared care for 11 years and my husband gets along with my ex. My ex's girlfriend leaves the room when I am around though, that's her problem.

Christina - posted on 08/24/2016

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No I totally agree, I told him that too. I refuse to deal with her she doesn't know her boundaries and it's hard to deal with someone like that. I appreciate the advice!

Christina - posted on 08/24/2016

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The court order doesn't really specify that, we were suppose to have 50/50 custody but after a month of trying that my ex gave up. I tried to go back to court but he couldn't be found so the case was dropped I am now in the process of modifying my case, I wasn't sure if the court can put something like that in place. I will look into it, thank you! 🙂

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