Charmaine - posted on 04/11/2016 ( 17 moms have responded )
I have been seperated with my ex since our little girl was an infant. i moved to another close city (about 2.5 hours drive) away at the time to get away from him family and i just needed space at the time. I was travelling to his city EVERY weekend for about 2 years until i told him that its not fair for me to do that. i work all day full time and only get a few hours of our daughters time to bond. so we agreed that she can stay with me one weekend. and to make the driving a little easier he would meet me half way every other weekend. which worked out (sort of more for him) until he remarried. He tells me that he is no longer going to be meeting half way. i ask why. and if he wasn't able to do that. than im not going there every weekend for him. He confessed it was because his wife thought we were having an affair (somehow as we exchanged our daughter). So i was at a point where it was now . he had every other weekend (every 2 weeks). Which was better for me and my daughter as i got to spend more time with her. He was willing to sacrifice this.
So now that his wife is preg and due any day. he tells me that instead of putting her in a day home in calgary she can start staying with him in his city because his wife is now staying home perm. "its better for her and all of us"
Im like nope. and called him. vented out the fact he never once came to my city to see his daughter. nor does he even pay the child support that is stated on our court papers. he just decides to pay what HE thinks is fair.
yes im sorry. I do have to work for a living and have a job where our daughter goes to day home during the day. shes starting grade one in sept and soon will not be in a dayhome. but at school. than things got personal. saying shes lieing too much. we are teaching her to lie. ?? (im pretty sure thats normal for a 5 year old with an imagination)
Well. everything is just frustrating me. how can he do that. just decide to take her away. and i have the option of going to his city whenever i want to see my daughter. . . and im the unfair one.
Currently we just have it on our divorce papers that i have primary residence and he gets resonable and generous access to our daughter.