Mona - posted on 08/04/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
My ex husband was a a violent man and the court had fact finding if was proved than also the court give him supervised contact with my children..he is a charm in supervised contact the reports were on his favour so the contact become unsupervised from 2 hrs to 5 hrs.my children were never keen to meet him but I used to I courage a d leave them for contact . They told everyone they don't want to meet h but it was no use . I was the one always blamed for here not keen for the contact .we daughter started having urine infection on and often .i could not understand the reason .one weekend when I went to pick her up she told me she had blood in her urine . I got really worried as she is only 8 how can she has it .left my son to my brother and took her to emergency .on the way she told me her dad tickle her badly it hurts and explained with action .i told the same to the docters in emergency .police was called by the hospital a d the case was registered but it was dropped due to lack of evidence .my children did not have any contact since last year since the allegation .the farther told in family court that the children are making a story told by me to stop the contact .a psychologist was appointed by court who also said my daughter with special needs can't make a story .but in the fact finding he showed the recording of the videos of every contact to the court .he was actually recording every contact with my children during contact .bug he only recorded 3 hrs of recording saying he was charging his I pad which was believed by the court .my concerns shown to the gp showed that I talk about my problems in front my daughter and this made the little girl make a story .he judge actually believed him not my kids because the allegation happened in the library and according to the judge it is right for a farther to record every contact with his children and a child with special needs is just making a story not to meet him and her brother supported her story . This I. How our system works .the children need to go for counselling a d a farther like him is given indirect contact for 12 months and after that he is allowed to come back to court . In the judgement it is written he is a loving farther .my poor girl who is telling the right is proved wrong by our English system who listen to child abuse cases seriously .