My Fiancé is smoking crack

Kriddy - posted on 12/26/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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He is superman 98% of the time - then he does this crack binging. It broke up his first marriage and last night Christmas night - at 3am - I found him smoking crack .... Again - he feels its not a big problem

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Kriddy - posted on 12/26/2013

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Thank you, yes and your precisely right - it's get help or get out. He knows it but he is in so much denial and druggie bravado that YES he lost his 1st wife of 17 yrs and 2 beautiful children that I adore and they love me. I'm not able to have babies so its even more heart breaking --- But YES I do realize that I can not let him live here if he does not go get help . Thank you for your support - kriddy

Ev - posted on 12/26/2013

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It is time to wake up, Kriddy, and see what is going on. Has this guy ever gone to get help for his additcion? You even said it ruined his first marriage, what do you think is going to happen to your relationship? If he can not leave it alone or tries to hid the facts from you just like last night and you found him, chances are he is not going to change at all unless he hits rock bottom and decides for himself that he has really messed life up for himself and those around him. Its time to give him the ultimatum about the drugs or yourself. Tell him and even remind him it lost him his first marriage and it will cause him to loose you too. I would not stick around waiting for a man to change because he has me in his life. If I am that important to him, then he will find a way to stop, get help,and remain clean the rest of his life. I do not know what you mean by 98% of the time being superman but he is not being superman 98% of the time if he binges on crack and lost things because of it. Do you really want this in your life? Do you want to have children with this man who seems to only care about you when it suits him and does drugs the rest of the time? By doing drugs, he is changing his own DNA and it could cause health issues or disabilities in the children. You need to think for yourself too before it is too late.

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