Christina - posted on 01/01/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have been dating a good friend for three years. He proposed on Christmas day. His kids are loving children. In saying that, that also act super spoiled. All they want to do is play on the electronic games. They do not eat veggies. The youngest boy and girl, will sit at the table till all hours, having to eat their dinner (small amount) all because there might be a few peas in the food. It is atrocious. Then when it comes time to sit down to eat, there is always chaos and arguing over who asked for what first. This leads to the eleven year old pouting, the little girl deciding her brothers aren't being fair and it all goes downhill. I do not think I have ever sat down at their dinner table when there was an incident free occasion. I tell my fiance his kids are so rude to him, and he lets them walk all over him. He is beginning to listen to my gentle guidance, and has a long way to go. The little girl manipulates her daddy something horrible. He finally resorted to the soap in the mouth. Deciding she did not like the flavor of the ivory soap bar, her behavior has not been quite as bad. So, is it really good to simply send them to their rooms when being little meanies? I just do not know. I have heard of positive positive action. Like, a negative should have a punishment that is not a negative more of a positive, with positive outcomes in their lives, down the line. There are so many questions and everyday scenarios, I could go on. But I will begin with this one. Thanks, any books and helpful advice welcomed here.