Carleigh - posted on 02/25/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
My little girl just turned 1 at the beginning of February, so I am a fairly new mommy haha. I got pregnant with my daughter pretty much immediately after I graduated from university and I luckily had already landed a teaching job at a small countryside school a few months after I graduated and found out I was expecting with my soon to be husband. I had taken a very short leave from work because I have so much student debt and am now caring for a child and saving for a wedding. My fiancee on the other hand had kept his job full time with the RCMP throughout my pregnancy. We both make roughly the same yearly salary at this point.\
Anyways I have been feeling stressed because I work all day with kids at school and then I come home and have to fully take care of the baby while I still have work to correct and lessons to plan. It is starting to become more than I thought it would and I am getting so stressed. Yesterday my fiancee asked me why I was feeling this way and after I had explained everything he told me that my job was easier and that he was the one who should be stressed because he has a physically demanding job with the police and puts his life on the line every day.. I understand where he is coming from, but I believe every job comes with different struggles and can cause the same amount of stress to any given individual depending on how they handle it etc...but he just wont understand! I don't know if I want to marry him if he isn't going to help out even a little bit with our child, I also don't want to marry him if he can't even comfort me through stressful times, I know I would for him.
Am I being completely irrational or what?
Also how can I nicely help him see through my eyes about this?