My finace doesn't want another baby, but I do?

Kayla - posted on 11/06/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




My fiance and I have been together for 2 years. I have 2 children from a previous relationship and he has 1. When we first got together he constantly talked about having at least one more child. After about a year of being together this completely changed. He doesn't want anymore children at all. I want just one more baby and then I told him I would get my tubes tied and we wouldn't have to worry about it again. Just two weeks ago he told me he wanted to go off of my birth control and that we were going to try, but then a few days later he's constantly complaining about the negative things about having another child. He said he won't go back on his decision because he already told me we could, but now I feel like I'm forcing him. What should I do? I really don't want to resent him in the long run, but I also don't want to sacrifice having another child. We only live once and I don't want to have that kind of regret. Any advice?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/07/2013




DO NOT get pregnant until you are BOTH sure that this is what you want.

Get counseling, talk to each other, and come to a mutual agreement.

Sarah - posted on 11/07/2013




My opinion would be to stop trying now. Get married first. Put your ducks in order before adding more stress to the situation. You both have kids from previous relationships.....that adds other stresses that even multiple when a new child is added. Can it be done? Yes, but you need to do things in order and make sure every one is 100% on board. Or you will be left with 3 kids from two relationships.

Ambur - posted on 11/07/2013




He's probably just nervous. I would go for it. But that's just me. There are positives about having children too.

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