My first baby.

Alexzandra - posted on 10/25/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I'm 19 and this is my first pregnancy. I'm a little scared. I don't know what I need to do. I have been told to give it up for adoption or get an abortion, I wont do either I want my baby. I don't know how far along I am, I find out tomorrow at my first ultrasound.

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Lydian - posted on 10/28/2016

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Hugs and love sent your way, as you make the amazing journey through pregnancy and having a baby. It is never easy even for those older than you or married. Glad you honored the life of your child, may you find support, peace, and joy through that decision.

Aubranee - posted on 10/27/2016

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I had my daughter at 17 and it was hard. Her father was around maybe the first 4 months of her life and after that he was sort of a "ghost". I was scared and thought about abortion but the first time i I saw her I couldn't believe i even considered getting rid of her. She's a beautiful 11 month old now😆. Any woman can be a good mother at any age some things come naturally and it gets easier as they get older. I'm 18 about to have my second in college. You'll be fine momma :)

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Vickyshiokari - posted on 10/27/2016

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Biologically the best birthing years are between 18-24 but today women have children much later in life. When my mother had me she had lots of friends that had their babies at 20 and 21. Is the father involved? I ask because this doesn't have to be a sad thing. You and the child's father will have to make some sacrifices but you can make it. Think about it this way you'll only be 37/38 when the child is 18.

Tei - posted on 10/26/2016

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It scared me too at first when I found out. But, like you I felt within that somehow that was something that I wanted. It was unexpected but I never felt that the baby was unwanted. I was glad I kept the pregnancy because having a baby was the best thing that happened to me. Indeed, it was challenging in all aspects, financially, emotionally, and psychologically. But, I would do it again in a heartbeat. The joy that the baby brings is totally worth it to me. She gave me more sense of direction in life and in the process made me become a mature responsible being. In the end, it is up to you to decide. If you do decide to keep the baby, prepare yourself for bigger responsibilities because it will no longer be about you but it will also be about your little angel. Take much care of yourself for both of you. I hope you will come up with the right decision. :)

Michelle - posted on 10/25/2016

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I agree with Dove. You are an adult and have made your choice, it's up to you to do the best you can by the baby.
If you don't know what you need to do, then read books! There is plenty of information for you to gain before having the baby.
Make sure you can support the baby as well, they aren't cheap.

Dove - posted on 10/25/2016

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You are 19. On the young side, but you are an adult and you have every right to keep and raise your baby.

Are you in a relationship w/ the father? Do you have a job and/or are you in school? Having kids is never 'easy', but it's certainly doable. If you have your life in 'order' you are off to a good start. If you do not... take a look at what your life DOES look like and see what steps you need to take to get your life in order before the baby is born.

Most of all right now though... take care of your body and try not to stress too much.

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