My first born, my four year old daughter Rosalie is going through very bad tantrums......when I say bad I mean there is no reasoning when she does them. She says mean things, throws herself on the floor, answers back and is a differeent little girl then the one I know! She is a very strong little girl and tends to get over excited and hugs hard which I dont punish her for I just tell her to hug gently. But some moms dont understand and say i am justifying her behavior which I am not. But I know her and when she is tired she tends to act up more easily. i dislike the word brat coming from someone else. these tantrums have started 2 weeks ago and my heart is in pieces....any of you going through very bad tantrums with a four year old?

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Rhiannon - posted on 01/14/2013

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You can't reaon with a four year old and its no good arguing with her either all children throw tantrums and anyone who says their child doesn 't is lying. The best options are to praise here when she does things right and most of all when she is throwing a tamtrum just put her some where safe where she can't hurt herself and let her cry it out turn your back and don't feed in the the anger when she calms down you can then explain to her what shes done wrong or just that throwing tantrums wont get her what she wants ask her to use her words to tell you whars wrong you have to be strong and it will take sometime but eventually the tantrums will stop. I hope this helps it took me a long time to figure put when my now 11 year old was small

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Angela - posted on 01/15/2013

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OOh Karen, Ive been doint time outs since she turned two and yes the exact way you explained it. These ''Horrible Tantrums '' have just began.....before this they were controllable. When she pulls them there is nothing you can do she isnt reasonable but leaving her ride them out helps a lot. then I talk to her and we have a long chat and over the past couple of days there has been a bit of improvement so i guess thats what matters. Thanks

Karen - posted on 01/14/2013

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You have to be consistant. I have a 4 yr old who throws whopper temper tantrums. I've started putting him in the corner for 4 mins. The timer restarts or doesn't start until he can calm down. If he starts acting up or coming out he gets put back in and starts again. The first time we did it, it literally took all morning. Now it's been a few weeks and the tantrums have decreased dramatically! Now I'm not fearful when I have to tell him no about anything like I used to be. Don't forget after time-out to ask them why they were in the corner and ask for an apology and a big hug after! Good luck

Angela - posted on 01/14/2013

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Thank you....people are fast to judge but you have been helpful and havent judged!

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