Daya - posted on 08/31/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
When my children were little, my twins were 2, I started telling them about good touch and bad touch. I told them if anyone touched them in those places they could tell anyone about it. About 2 years later my son now 4 came and told me his daddy was putting his pee pee in his butt. I was in shock (of course) and told my husband I was taking the kids to my parents for a few days. I had 2 - 4 year old's, a 3 year old and a 2 year old. My parents and I decided that a 4 year old wouldn't come up with that on his own and decided to call the police. This began a 2 year criminal trial and investigation. He, My EX, finally plead guilty and spent very little time in jail, but in the process I made sure it would be very difficult if not impossible to ever be around my children again. The story doesn't ever end there though... My son is now 30 years old. All of my children are raised and have children of their own. Are they happy? yes. Well adjusted? yes.. How am I? Well I still cry about it all these years later. When I see them go through a difficult time, struggle with depression or need a dad around, yeah it gets to me. I raised 4 abused children and it was hell sometimes. I remember once sitting on the couch holding all four of them and all of us crying cause they were not aloud to see daddy anymore. I asked God to help cause I didn't know if I could do this. It gets better Ladies and we get stronger but it is not easy and there is no one formula that works for everyone. I had to move several times to find a safe haven for my kids to grow up sleeping and feeling safe. I had to sacrifice many things in my life to make sure they had every thing they needed to overcome special adversities. I had to home school some of the time because of emotional issues, which meant I could not work. Was it worth it? yes.every bit is and was worth it.