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He refuses to eat, whether it be breakfast, lunch or dinner and we have to make him sit at the table for hours until he eventually does, after screaming/undressing/and making noise. When we ask him why he doesn't eat he simply replies with "because Mummy and Daddy want me to eat", also during his reading and writing time he'll fidget and move and make noise in order to gain our attention. We know he's hungry, and as punishment for not eating his meals properly he doesn't receive snacks, he's not allowed to have any as it is as it makes him hyperactive, and he even refuses to eat his lunch at school, coming home with a full lunch box and explaining that he "didn't want to eat because the dinner lady told him to", he seems to have a problem with authority, and our punishment methods of naughty corner, no tv/play time, don't seem to be working. He also purposefully wets the bed at number amount of times in the night, and again we know it's not a bladder problem as he went several months without doing it, he even at one point pulled his pyjamas off, wet the bed and put them back on, and again when we ask why he behaves like this he explains that it's "because it makes mummy and daddy unhappy". It's stressing me out an obscene amount, especially as I already have an 11 and 8 year old child as well, and a newborn close to it's due date, I know it may possibly be out of jealousy, but I'm scared that his behavior will worsen when the baby is here, when I wont have time to sit there for hours and make him eat, or wake up several times in the night to wash him after he purposefully wets the bed, he even does it when we are scolding him, and I don't think I'll be able to cope when the baby arrives. His grandmother thinks we're starving him as he's losing weight, and ignoring the problem of bed wetting only seems to make him do it more, please help?