Lori - posted on 07/17/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
Not sure where to post this but maybe someone has some insight. My daughters 14 & 18 lost their father (my ex-husband) this past February. He did not have a will and was not remarried but lived with his girlfriend of a couple years. I understand that his estate would belong to the girls. The ex-in-laws have acknowledged this, however, they have not been willing to let the girls have what they are asking for. To further complicate things we live 2000 miles apart so can't just run over and gather the items. The girls were able to go through his belongings when we traveled to the memorial services and picked up some things they could take back with them with a promise from the relatives they would send some stuff by mail. When that did not happen my older daughter drove the distance to pick up some larger items but was not received well and ended up leaving with less then she had intended. I have had a heart to heart with the girls that they needed to just send a list of the items they felt they could not live without and be done so everyone could just move on. They reluctantly agreed, however, the list (very small list) they sent was firmly rejected with a terrible note to the girls that their “father would be ashamed of them”. Of course this broke their hearts! At this point, I don’t know what to do other than get a lawyer involved. It seems so petty because what they are asking for isn’t anything with huge monetary value but sentimental value and they could realistically ask for much much more. How do I get these people to acquiesce to the girls so we can move on??