my grand babies

Linda - posted on 03/11/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I need someone to give me advice regarding my grandchildren I'm really struggling with this and I know my grandchildren are hurting

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Linda - posted on 03/11/2016

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yes they do I have spoke with the father about this he knows it all to be true but doesn't want to do anything about it I don't understand him either I thought I could at least talk to him but no he goes back and tells my daughter everything but in his version and the vicious cycle starts all over again as far as me talking to someone in my area it's hard to find someone to understand why I like support groups like this only true caring mom's can relate

Dove - posted on 03/11/2016

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Perhaps YOU can seek some counseling. It sounds like you could benefit from a support person and they may be able to give you tips on dealing w/ her in the best way to keep as much peace and stability for the kids as possible.

Do the kids have a relationship w/ their father/fathers?

Linda - posted on 03/11/2016

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my daughter is really in a bad way she back in forth in different relationships one day she might be with this guy an next day I find out her,an kids have moved out and she gonna live with this guy she stays gone for 3 days and now she moved back in with other boyfriend and kids are getting dragged through it all I can go on an on with this but I will stop here again thanks for the wonderful advice glad I found this site at least it gives me some where to turn

Linda - posted on 03/11/2016

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thank you that helps a lot as far as counseling with my daughter if I even suggest anything to her it's mom starting crap and I'm shut completely out again so I will just do what you suggest and put the rest in God hands

Dove - posted on 03/11/2016

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Mental/emotional abuse is typically really hard to prove. Not that it doesn't do as much damage (and oftentimes more) than physical abuse... but the scars are much harder to see.

I'm not sure in what way they are being mentally/emotionally abused, but I guess you have to ask yourself if they are being less harmed w/ you involved in their lives... or more. I can not say what I would do in this situation, but I can give a guess... and I would likely be keeping my mouth shut in order to be seeing the kids, BUT I would also be privately documenting each and every incident of abuse until I compiled enough evidence to do something about it.

If your daughter is receptive... perhaps you can suggest that you all attend some family counseling together because you want to have a healthy relationship w/ her for the sake of the kids.

Linda - posted on 03/11/2016

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and the things I can't and don't wanna keep my mouth shut about is the mental abuse that I know my grand babies go through I have reported this numerous times and no one listens

Linda - posted on 03/11/2016

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my daughter an her boyfriend uses my grand babies as,weapons against me the last time they done this keep them from me for 6 months brain washed the 3 yr old against me because of this I have stepped away I miss my grand babies and sure they miss me I can see them now but my problem is if I continue to have a relationship with them I half to keep my mouth shut I can not voice my concerns about anything no matter how well I go about doing it so my question is doing I continue to stay out of the picture or do I see my grand babies and keep my mouth shut

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