My grandkids are not fun !!!

Ruth - posted on 09/24/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I have 5 grandchildren -- 2 are the best kids and I enjoy being with them . My problem is the other 3.. When they come over, they are like 3 hurricanes ........ They immediately tell me they are hungry, bored, want to play all in one breath.. One is in the refrigerator, the other is begging for attention to play ... the third is going thru my personal items, all in about 5 to 10 minutes of their arrival..

I have set boundaries down. No jumping on couches, going thru drawers, refrigerator, begging for more food.. I feel like a Army sargeant , and the minute I turn my back, they are into something else .. I don't enjoy these children, sounds horrible for a grandmother, but I cannot handle 3 at one time.. Ages 4.5, and 10..

I'm out of solutions, .. any suggestions? After 2 hours, I feel like wiped out.. HELP

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Sally - posted on 09/24/2012

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I have 3 grandchildren, 4months,6 and 8 years. When they stay with me they follow my rules,well the older 2. I don't beat them but they do get time out etc. I made my daughter aware that if I was to babysit them then I would have my rules for my house and expected them to respect them but I also told her that she need to back me up simply by saying Nanna's house Nanna's rules. It works well and I really enjoy my weekends with them. I would sit down with their parents and talk about some house rules that you all agree on and the parents will back you in. I guess in away I was lucky There was a big gap between my first and last child so my youngest son is only 6 years older than my granddaughter, so I was still used to kids. Good luck.

Elfrieda - posted on 09/24/2012

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Wow, they sound like toddlers. They shouldn't be acting like this at their ages. I agree with a previous idea, take only one at a time.

Mardi - posted on 09/24/2012

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Can you try just taking them one at a time.....maybe start with the oldest and if you can get them under control, work your way down and use good old peer pressure with the younger ones to keep them in line.



Ok, you know these kids like to eat, go through cupboards/fridges and need entertaining, so you need to have a plan or several for the time you have them.

Do you do cooking with them, maybe that could intertwine all of their shortcomings, just give them the right jobs each.



In short of that, take them to a local park upon arrival, wear them out.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/21/2015

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Ever bothered to speak to YOUR children? You know...the ones who are raising them to be little hellions?

Sally - posted on 09/25/2012

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I agree with Mardi, what happens in other houses are not your problem, set some rules. If it can't be sorted don't have them so often , after all you have already rared one family. I really hope you and the parents can come to an agreement. Its your home and should be respected. X

Mardi - posted on 09/25/2012

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Get yourself a naughty corner or 3 and start using it. If the other grandparents let them behave like this, whats the world got to look forward to them growing up and entering society??? If they dont like it, do you really want them coming so often anyway???

Ruth - posted on 09/25/2012

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Thank you for your comments.. I cannot take one at a time .. I get the bundle in one package..

All of you have great suggestions, and I appreciate them.. My thoughts were, they are watched by the other set of grandparents, so possibly the other grandmother lets them behave in this manner..consequently they may think that if they are permitted to behave this way there, they have the freedom to behave this way at my home.

Katrina - posted on 09/24/2012

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In regards to the food...could you pack each one a lunch box with their TOTAL snacks for the day (aside from their sandwiches for lunch)?

Have a variety of things in the lunch box...fruit x2-3, biscuits, crackers & cheese, a small tub of yoghurt...put a lock on your fridge if necessary but when they arrive, they are told "This is ALL your snacks for the day...if you decide you are hungry, go for it...but once it runs out, too bad"

Hopefully that will teach them to be a bit more balanced with their eating, because it will be their fault if they run out early.

Then for lunch, just one sandwich (ie 2 pieces of bread) each. If they are still hungry, they can go back to their snack box.



As for going into your personal things, are they in the same room or separate? Consider a lock for a door if they are in another room (up high near the door jam) or a lockable desk...



Good luck with it all :S

Ruth - posted on 09/24/2012

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I don't have car seats for the two of them.. I prefer to have them in my home or yard.. I took one to the beach awhile ago, and forgot suntan lotion, and my son would not let me babysit for 3 yrs after that.. Said I abused his child , because I forgot to put lotion. on.. I brought him home and bathed him , put cream on him .. Explained the situation, had an extra t shirt, while he has in the sun, but he still became angry. That is why I am hesitant to be to firm with his children..

Ruth - posted on 09/24/2012

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I have games, all kinds of toys, and things to do planned before they come over.. I schedule a time for a snack with them.. - They will play for about 15 minutes , but the older one will be in my office going through my things,papers etc.. After I ask him not to go through my personal items, the other two are in the refrig .. My question is, do I have to entertain them, for 2 or 3 solid hours, I'm serious.. without being able to go to the bathroom without one banging on the door, wanting in? I guess I must not be used to this..

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