Danielle - posted on 05/06/2011 ( 82 moms have responded )
Today, my Grandma made ( in my opinion) a very rude comment about my son.
We don't visit very often..maybe twice a year at best.
My cousin is getting married tomorrow and so we were all out helping set up the venue, and of course my son was there as well.
I stay home with my son so often gets intimidated with large crowds, today he had refused to eaten his lunch, he no longer naps during the day, and is always up at six in the morning.
Usually around 2 in the afternoon is his breaking point so I usually try to get as much done during the day as possible before that time. So we went out this morning to help, and my grandparents also showed up.
My grandma went to say "Hello" to Jack and for some reason he always get really stressed out and kinda flips. He keeps saying "No" and turns away, but in kind of in a tantruming way.
Now, he doesn't do this with everyone (at least not the people he sees regularly), but whenever he is meeting new people he doesn't like the attention.
Anyways, so I always get embarrassed when he acts like that and I never know what to say, so I often say "Oh, sorry. He's grumpy today".
In most time he is grumpy. He is 2.5, and his emotions are all over the place.
Today when I said that my Grandma responds by saying "No, he is not grumpy. He is always like this!" and then she pivots on her heels and walks away from us.
It made me so mad. She never see's him, and you expect him to what? Hug you?
It makes me feel like a horrible mother. Should I just chalk it up to hurt feelings, or maybe just the general age difference (that she may not understand)
Is it normal for my son to react this way when seeing people in general?
What can I do so he isn't finicky around people?
He doesn't like it when unfamiliar people talk directly to him.
P.S) he is also being evaluated for Autism and has sever language delays...which I also think fuels his tantrums to an explosive point.
I am just tired of everyone judging my little boy. It is starting to affect me emotionally, and I don't want to start comparing my son to other children, and have that affect how I treat him.
I also don't want my family to think that I am not doing what I can, and think my baby is a brat.
Any advice would help.