My grief journey

Tommie - posted on 04/10/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son passed away 10/9/11. I seem to be getting worse rather than better. I have begun mistrusting his wife. She has lied to chuck's father and me so much that I don't believe what she tells me about his sudden death from lung cancer. Everyday I try to put the pieces together so i can understand her lack of knowledge that he was dying and she did not tell us until after his passing. What can I do to help myself?

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Tommie - posted on 04/11/2014

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I did talk with his doctor. He felt sure "he had thrown a blood clot" due to his lung cancer. The doc said he was also anemic. Chuck's wife did not take time off to care for him and boasted later that she had over a month paid leave that she had to take or lose it. She said Chuck was on Morphine and Percocet and she did not stay home with him. I cannot get it out of my head that she assisted him in suicide...or worse.

The psychologist recognized the depth of my grief and depression and arranged for me to have individual counseling. I don't know if I am in the stage of blame in my grief. If so, it is a long stage.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/10/2014

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Give it some time. Keep going and. I am sure it was completely emotionally exhausting.

Tommie - posted on 04/10/2014

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I am as of today in a group therapy counseling group for Mothers Who Have Lost Children. I went, we all cried, we each have a sad tale to tell. I am not sure if it helped....I am exhausted.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/10/2014

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As far as helping yourself, have you gone through grief counseling?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/10/2014

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I am so sorry for your loss. That is terrible. Have you contacted the hospital or medical examiner about his passing? Have you seen his death certificate? What have you pursued or do you not really want to know? It is really strange for your son not to tell you how terminally ill he was.

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