My Hubby Want to Take in Our Foster Nephews.. HELP??

Lana - posted on 08/04/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Ok, so i have 1 child (5 Months old), we live in a 2/bedroom apartment.. My SIL has 2 boys (ages 3 & 1.5) whom she did not take the best care of so now they'r with CPS...
She would let them run around doing watevr they wanted & she'd let them eat only junk food..
Im trying really hard not to judge becos im still pretty new at parenting (im 21 btw)
My SIL doesnt want her kids to end up in a strangers home (even though we RARELY see each other) but my hubby thinks we should take them in "temporarly" cos we need the money... He just very recently got a trucking job so he will be gone most of the time which leaves me with 3 kids =(
i love my nephews but i dont wanna raise them! (sounds so selfish.. i kno) i have told this to my husband to which he replyd that it will only be temporary.. wat does that even mean?? did anyone else go thru this?? how does that work?
im so depressed =( i wouldnt mind having 3 kids.. OF MY OWN.. maybe i wouldnt mind so much if we had a house & more room... maybe i wouldnt mind if they even knew who the heck i was.. help??????

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Lana - posted on 08/05/2011

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@Christy Wager Flowers: The boys will NOT be split up. My husband has 2 other sisters (each with one child of school age; one is 7 & the other is 5) who live not far away (& whom the boys KNOW better than me)
Also, my SIL lives with her MIL & she doesnt mind taking the boys cos they live with her anyways!
Why should MY child have to give up all the attention he deserves?? & how do i get my husband to agree with me??

Christy - posted on 08/04/2011

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Don't take them in based on what husband is saying (the money aspect). If you don't feel you can provide them a safe and comforting environment, don't do it. HOWEVER....

Where else will they go? Will they be split up as siblings and go to separate homes? I know your baby is only 5 months old but think of it this way, you are helping the KIDS, not their mom. You may even find you enjoy them. Personally I would take them in, NOT for the money, but for them. Babies and children need stability and love, and I bet you can provide both in a heartbeat. No, it won't be easy but you will be a stronger person as a result. Good luck!

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