My Hunny went to jail 3 nights ago and I cant cope.

Tache - posted on 03/13/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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He went 3 nights ago on a Domestic on me, We have a 18 month old son and he was my best-friend, We were inseparable !
I have a no contact with him, I have mixed emotions if were over or if im still endlessly in love with him, We just moved into a new apartment and we have it half painted, I have all these dutys now like taking out the garbage I have to do myslef and Im just overwhelmed. I really really miss him, it aches, its so quiet and my Sons looking for him everywhere. I want to break the no contact an write to the Judge cause he goes in Tuesday, Im asking for a Anger Program so he can atleast get out of jail ! May I add he wanted to be a cop, he doesn't belong in there and im filled with dread and anxiety. I dont know if I even should feel sorry for him but this overpowering longing to have him here is all I feel. Anyone else going thu this ?

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Kennishia - posted on 03/13/2014

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Hey Tache! I completely understand what your feeling. Just over a year ago my child's father went to jail for assault on me too. I loved him and started feeling guilty. I did everything I could to help him get out the situation without a record and so on I even paid for his lawyer but honestly it did me no good. Because I helped him out of it and just took him back he didn't learn anything. He kept abusing me! And he was studying to be a child an youth worker! Till finally I had to stay away from him for good. I'm sad that I'm a single mom but the peace in my home is much more worth it. I know your hurting but you need support for you now focus on you and your son. Please message me if you need to talk. Be careful for your safety and for your sons'.

Ana - posted on 08/17/2014

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A man with ANGER is a danger to you and your baby. The fact that he is away is a good thing, a safe thing for you.

Why else do you think the authorities had to come pick him up, he was out of control. You are lost in emotions right now, and you are willing to put yourself in danger of going to jail by breaking the law to contact him. You would actually be willing to leave your child and go to jail just to talk to him.

Catch yourself, you are falling out of control yourself. My mom told me never be that 'Gone' over a man. Meaning if something doesn't work out, you need to care for yourself, and never put you or your children in danger in any way for any man. It never ends good. Because on the flip side, men don't respect women who do anything for them, because it means you have no standards, and are driven by emotions and not common sense.

You are smart for coming on here to ask for advice, please read all the comments of the women, (like me) who have already been through this, and know others who have as well.

Keep your life, keep your freedom, Keep your child from experiencing hardships if you can.

Dove - posted on 08/17/2014

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Pucci... you get into counseling to learn that you do NOT need him and you will be ok (better than ok cuz you won't be abused anymore) w/out him.

I'm sure it won't be easy, but you need to completely let him go. ♥

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/14/2014

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He abused you once, he will do it again. Then he may do it to your child. He does indeed belong in jail if he is abusing you. Don't be a typical victim and bring your abusive husband back home for him to keep abusing you and your child. Being a single mother is easier than raising a child in a physically abusive environment. Just remember, your child will learn to treat women the same way. Do yourself a favor and do not bring this man back into your life. You will have respect for yourself.

Jodi - posted on 03/13/2014

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Well, he is in there for abusing you. He DOES belong in there. You certainly shouldn't be helping him get out to come back and live with you. What if next time he loses his temper he kills you? You owe your son NOT to get back into that relationship.

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Pucci - posted on 08/17/2014

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I am going thru such a similar situation. He was going tot six years if i hadnt lied to tthe courts about the severity of abuse. We have a son together and i recently found out that during my pregnancy while i visited family he was desperately trying to go back with his ex. I feel so betrayed and stupid and angry and the worst is since ive confronted him he no longer even calls from jail. What do i do? I still love him and want answers more than anything. what do i do?????

Kennishia - posted on 03/13/2014

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Also you said he doesn't belong in there but he does for now, that's the law, assault is assault no matter what he wants his career to be. His love for you should restrain his temper from getting out of control. Be strong sweety.

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