Cassandra - posted on 05/04/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )
Hi all...I wanted to talk about my husband and get some input. My husband is very loving - affectionate, and very good to me and our children. Tonight he acted really irrational. Our 7 month old baby is sick. I didn't feel well myself, and i went to bed early. He was acting kind of negative and grouchy, complaining about not getting any time to himself, so he got to spend several hours playing his video games after i went to bed. This is typical, and he does play a lot of video games...I don't think he realizes how much he actually gets to himself even if he does have to get up often either for himself or one of the kids. Our baby slept the whole time too. He came to bed at 11PM and has to be up at 4AM for work. Shortly after midnight, our baby wakes up, and I go to fetch her. She cried for the 5 minutes it took me to change her and suck the boogies out of her nose. He came out and said in a real grouchy tone, "whats going on here?" It made me tense up the way he spoke so I told him exactly what was going on - that our baby is sick and I am taking care of her. Within 2 minutes I lie her back down and head back to bed. He was being very rude to me in the bedroom. He started off by saying "jesus christ the baby has been crying for 5 minutes and I have to get up in 3 hours!" I reminded him that she was sick an that he chose to go to bed at 11PM. He was being very bossy and I told him I didn't appreciate him for treating me like crap over this. i thought he would be more understanding...instead of acknowledging the situation, he started having these outbursts that were making me more and more upset. "Your crazy!" "Your acting mental!" "You are losing your mind!" "How can you be so angry at 2 o'clock in the morning?" I mean...he is saying these things inbetween me explaining that I didn't intend to wake him up, that the baby was sick and thats why she was crying, and that I didn't understand why he didn't get it...with each passing moment, he was just getting more and more irrational and was saying hurtful things. I lwalked away and left to the couch. I could hear him trailing off. This is NOT the first time he has done this, but it does not happen often.I believe in communication, so I try to talk things out to resolve a problem. I can get excited easily but I am generally calm when I speak. It REALLY hurts my feelings that he goes straight to name calling in stressful situations. He is an AMAZING man and I do not understand why he is like this sometimes! Have you ever gone through this? What do you think?