My husband all he wants to do is play his xbox should I hide it from him I thought bout breaking it

Jen - posted on 05/28/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Its all he does does andybody else have this problem he said something bout getting a online card ugh

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Firebird - posted on 05/29/2013

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Yea I paid the $60 for the year as well. It's always cheaper to buy in bulk. lol When dealing with this issue Jen, try and look for the positive factors, and make sure to calmly explain to your husband what you see as negative factors, see if you can't work out an acceptable balance.

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Kimothy - posted on 05/31/2013

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My husband is the same way. At first he was spending a lot of time playing Xbox. He still does but he has become more considerate to me and the kids. Talk to him about it. Tell him you want family time. Best of luck to you. It's a hard topic! Lol. As for the gold accounts get the family pack it's only like 99 for the whole year.

Kayla - posted on 05/31/2013

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You didnt know how much of a gamer he was before you married him??? Well i knew that my husband liked games but didnt know that he was a gamer until after the wedding. All the hiding in the world wont help so i just found a way to enjoy Ps3 ,xbox etc etc with him but also worked out time to do other things. This thing called love!!!!!!

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Firebird is right about the Gold Account. My husband has that, he needed it for some of his games, and if your kids play, they will need their own account. You get a discount if you pay for the whole years at once--I think I paid $60 for hubby's for the whole year, and made it one of his anniversary gifts...or it might have been a birthday, I don't remember, but we have it, and it's not expensive.
I actually do like it because he can now play with his brothers out of state, and our son gets to play with his cousins out of state--they can talk on a headset while they play and actually build a relationship, as guys don't really talk on the phone, so if it weren't for the XBox, they would barely know their brothers/cousins.

Firebird - posted on 05/29/2013

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About the gold account, there are some games that you can literally not progress in if you can't play with people online, so while it is still a waste of money, if your husband owns any such games, it would also be money wasted if he can't play them. I paid for online access just to be able to get through some of my games. Discuss cost with your husband and see if you have any money left over each month. Online access is about $8/month.

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I had a similar problem with my husband a few years ago with the PS3 (It's similar).

First, we sat down together to discuss our roles as parents. I told him that in the evenings, he needs to be attentive to our son because that is his only time to build a relationship with him, whereas I am home all day, so I will focus on cooking dinner and such. I don't ask my husband to do chores in the evening because I'm a sahm, but I do expect ALL fathers to make time for their children, and spend time with them everyday.
I wanted there to be no screen time (no TV, computer, or video games) in the house while J was still awake, and we could catch up on those things after J was in bed. Dh agreed, but said he needed time right after work to "switch gears" and get out of work mode. That was the time he usually started playing games and wouldn't stop. I was hesitant at first to give in, but we decided he could have 1 hour in his office right after work to do whatever he likes, uninterrupted. At the end of the hour, he comes out and is completely attentive and in a much better mood. We decided to use a timer, rather than me going in to get him, because it keeps him from being irked at me.
Also, in exchange for that hour to himself, I get an hour to MYSELF after dinner. I love this.

Firebird - posted on 05/28/2013

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Hiding it from him or worse - breaking it - will only start a fight of epic proportions. I would suggest trying to find a smarter route. Have you tried talking to him about his excessive gaming? Maybe the two of you could attempt to establish a reasonable compromise about how long he plays each day.

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