My husband and his ex-wife are taking advantage of me, and I don't know how to stop it!

Lesa - posted on 05/17/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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When my husband's ex-wife makes plans, and my husband is out of town, his ex-wife doesn't think she should take their shared child. She assumes that since it's normally my husband's night with their daughter that I should pick up the slack. I disagree. I have a life, and 2 other children. When I try to discuss my problem with this with my husband, he says I "hurt his feelings", and that our home is her home too, and she should be able to come to our home when he's not there.
What should I do?

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Ev - posted on 05/17/2014

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It does not sound like you are all on the same page with the weekend visits with dad. If she had already made plans ahead of his having to go out of town and the child is to go to his home for the weekend, should she have to make new plans because he has gone out of town? Does this happen often? You guys need to communicate better.

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Ev - posted on 05/18/2014

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Then you need to sit your husband down and tell him what is going on and how you feel about it. By keeping it to yourself, they think that this is still okay but it is his weekend and if mom does not know what is going on either, then she is well within her rights to expect dad is going to have them for his weekend. Its court ordered, it has to be done that way unless you can get them both to agree to something else when he is out of town.

Lesa - posted on 05/18/2014

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No, we aren't on the same page. To me, the key words here are "with dad". And, yes, no one is communicating with me about plans.

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