Tracy DeAnna - posted on 02/04/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I don't know how to make this brief..
My husband and I got married in 1981 and his mother was overbearing, meddling and hated me.. She said I ruined her son’s life.. We had three children and every time I got pregnant she cussed me and increasingly showed her dislike for me.. When I would complain about his mother and the way she treated me, my husband would tell me it was all in my mind and that I was the one with the problem.. His mom and dad moved to within 1/8 of a mile away from us and she was possessive and meddling.. We started having problems in the summer of 1988.. I suggested we go to a marriage counselor.. He suggested his Mom and Dad come over and play marriage counselor.. Their counseling resulted in them telling us “if we couldn’t get along, we needed to parts ways”.. After that, my husband acted as though he just didn’t care anymore.. I told him I wanted a divorce and two days later, his sister (who was 300 lbs and had always bullied me) walked into my house and told me that I was NOT getting the children.. This all happened from August 1988 to January 1989..
My husband put a tape recorder under the house to record my telephone conversations.. I was plotting to kidnap my children because I was scared of losing them.. He listened to the tape and came home one night and threw me around the house so the next day I packed them up and moved in with my parents.. My husband started calling me and tell me how much he loved me and missed me.. He wrote me a love letter, telling me the story of Lot’s wife, when she left him and he took her back and forgave her.. He also said in the letter that he was like Jesus, he had prepared a house for me like the one Jesus prepared for his bride. He begged me to come back to him and convinced me that if I came back, we would start all over and everything would be different!! This was March of 1989..
So I went home.. I drove up and we unloaded the van.. We sent the children out to play in the front yard while we talked (we had a big front yard on an 4 acres of land with a circle driveway).. His mother called and she and my father-in-law wanted to come by to see the children.. I agreed because I never thought in a million years there was any malicious intent.. I watched as they drove in one side of the property and stopped.. My husband was blocking the front door and I was sitting on the couch looking out.. His mother opened her car door and opened the back door and ushered Jamie and Jason in the backseat, closed the door, picked up the baby, Justin and got back in the car and they sped out the other side in a cloud of dust.. Joey went into the bedroom and came back with two packed bags, stopped at the door and said, “Now.. I have the kids, you can have your divorce”.. He got in his truck and left.. He filed for divorce in May 1989 and it was final with full custody to him in July 1989.. I had no job, no means of support for my children and no money to fight for them.. THAT IS HOW I LOST MY CHLDREN.. You can imagine the relationship I've had with my children despite my efforts to make it all right.. They still resent me.. I just needed to tell someone because after 20 years, I can't get past it!!