Annemarie - posted on 12/12/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
I see myself as the ideal daughter in law. My mother in law is very undiplomatic and often says things that hurts, but in the 10 years I’ve been married to my husband, I have never ever been involved in a fight with her as I am trying to “keep the peace” and just take the beating when it comes. We visit my mother in law every weekend (she lives 30 minutes away from us) so that she can spend time with her grandson (her only grandchild), I send her pictures everyday of our son and calls her often.
After our son’s birth I suffered from extreme postpartum depression and after a syndicate stole a significant amount of money from me and then my father in law who passed away in my arms, it developed into major depression. I am currently on treatment, but am still struggling from time to time.
A few days ago my mother in law called my husband requesting him to accompany her on a two-week holiday overseas, she is paying. I was truly offended and I told my husband, but he said I should not feel that way as she would like to spend time with him…. Her seeing her brother on his death bed made her realize that life is short and she wants to spend her money on her children while she is still alive. Yes, it is normal to spend money on your children and to spend time with them, but I just feel left out and unhappy about this situation. (Just to give background information: My mother in law always went alone overseas with her daughter or her brother (who is on his death bed) whilst my father in law stayed at home, but it did not bother him at all).
I am starting to make plans to move out of our house so that my mother in law can take my place
It just feels as if this is a bad joke to test my depression meds or am I too sensitive????