My husband and I are going on a trip for 5 nights and leaving our son (8 1/2 months) with my sister. Has anyone left their child at this age? If so, how did it go? I am very very nervous leaving him...

Kelly - posted on 02/09/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I am breastfeeding and would like to continue at least for a year. I have enough milk stored for the 5 nights we will be gone and am fine with pumping. I just am very nervous about keeping my supply up and if he will continue breastfeeding when we return.

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Kristi - posted on 02/10/2009

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Hi Kelly,



I know your concern and heartbreak in leaving your son...We left our daughter at 10 mos. old with my Mom for 5 days as well.  All I can say is...it is much harder on you than on your child.  My daughter was absolutely perfect for my Mom.  Although all children are different, most will adapt within 24-48 hours.  If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can try a test run and leave him overnight with your sister to see how he does.  I slept with one of my daughters loveys a couple of night before we left for our trip so it would smell like me.  I also took one of her blankets with me on my trip so I can feel close to her and  took several pics on my phone as well as a framed one to keep by my bed while I pumped.  I would suggest pumping every time your son would typically feed to keep your milk supply up.  I brought a cooler with me and some large 1 gallon zip lock bags to put ice in daily.  I kept my milk in the room in the cooler.  It will keep up to 7 days refridgerated.  Regarding whether your son will still want to breastfeed...most children do fine at your son's age going back to the breast.  =)



It is hard to be away from your child, but it does get easier.  Just try to relax and enjoy yourself...remember, you deserve some time to yourself, too!  Hope you have a good trip and I hope this helped.  God Bless!



Kristi

Rosana - posted on 02/09/2009

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They wont forget you, they just wont! I learn this the hard way. After 2 days of having my baby girl I stared with some horrible pains, I had her for 1 month when they told me I had to have surgery, they took my pancreas and blood vassel, I was in the hospital for 1 month I missed her so much, she is my first child, but as soon as I got out (it was mothers day last year) she was only 3 months old and she hugged me like saying I'd missed you so much. When I asked her grandma how she behaved, she replied "wonderful" and I went back to breastfeed it was hard at the begining but then again I was gone for a month, so I dont think 4 or 5 days they will forget you.



 



 



 



hope it helps



 



Roxy



 



from Puerto Rico



 



p.s. excuse my grammar english is not my first language...jijiji

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Andreamoyano8 - posted on 04/22/2016

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I am about to do the same, a trip to Cancun for 5 days and my heart is breaking already, I cry every night thinking about the trip, my heart aches, i can't breathe and I just can't stop crying. I really want to know how mothers do it? How to cope with the pain. I know he will be fine... But what do I do to enjoy that time away! I just want to say F it all and I'm bringing him, but also really need time with hubby. He doesn't get it, when I cry.. He just ignores me. I'm a month away of leaving him and I don't know if I can do it. Also... What if he doesn't want mommy's breast again! That would break my heart! Any advice ladies? :_{

Sue - posted on 02/11/2009

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Kelly, he will be just fine! It will seem like a day to the baby (harder on you, sorry to say), and he prefers you to bottle as it's been almost nine months. If your sisters feels the same way I do about my nephews, he'll be pampered and spoiled with kisses, and your sis will be fried. Take this time to re-connect with your partner. Have a glass of wine, a bubble bath, hopefully at least a long walk.



I have to travel at work, and although my girls are big now, I was gone for two weeks once! It was so good for them, they cover very close to my family.

Sheetal - posted on 02/11/2009

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I'm also planning a trip & this has been my concern as well ... but I see that it is possible to leave my baby with an adult I trust and relax for a bit ... thanks folks

Hilary - posted on 02/11/2009

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Don't worry, everything will be fine!  Guaranteed that you'll be more anxious about this separation than he will be. :-)  It might take a little bit of effort to get him breastfeeding again, but he won't forget.  Have you introduced a bottle before this?  If he's already used to switching between breast and bottle, that will make things a lot easier.  When you get back and breastfeed the first time, just express a tiny little bit of milk before you try to feed him, and just touch it to his lips.  Believe me, if he's hungry, he'll figure it out!  While you're away, just keep expressing milk around the same times that you normally feed your son, for about the same length of time.  You might not express as much as he would eat, but your body will catch up very quickly once you get back.  Good luck, and enjoy your trip!

Lindsey - posted on 02/10/2009

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I left my daughter with my parents from a young age for a few days and although I missed her very much, she was safe and extremely well looked after.  As long as you are completely happy with the people you are leaving him with you should make the most of the time you will have away.  Children always remember mum no matter what and the time away will allow you to be you again (if only for a short time) and spend some quality time with hubby.  I can't answer the breast feeding worry because I was one of the unfortunate ones who was unable to breast feed.  My daughter is 5 years old now and we couldn't be closer.  Have a great time and phone any time you need to to put your mind at ease. 

Danielle - posted on 02/10/2009

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I left my son when he was 9 months old with his grandma for 10 days to take my older son to Disneyworld. I had horrible thoughts in my head and fears... even though she is amazing with him.  I snuggled his extra blanket every night for a few weeks to get my scent on it, I put together a mini photo album of me and daddy and big brother- if you are concerned about the separation anxiety.... you can have your hubby video tape you reading several stories and your sister can play a story for your little one each night and sit with her with the story while she hears your voice reading it.  We have done this and it is wonderful. And remember, there is always the phone... you can always call. Remember with today's technology, I am sure your sister can send you photos via cell phone throughout the week of your little one too. Good luck!

Dee - posted on 02/10/2009

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I have.. left my children with their grandmother for a week they were about 8 mths & 1 1/2 yrs old.. no problem..missed them terribly but no problems at all! Enjoy yourself while you can!

Kelly - posted on 02/10/2009

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Thanks so much everyone for your responses! I seriously was on the verge of cancelling our trip! My husband, although a fabulous father and very caring husband, just doesn't seem to thoroughly understand what I am going through. I think it's something only a mother can feel. Hearing everyone's stories and words of wisdom and support has easied my fears. I forget that Mom's need time too:) Thanks again ladies!!!

Carina - posted on 02/09/2009

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i have left my son with my aunt at 5 months. i needed a night off and was desperate. i called my aunt about 8 times that night. each time my son was fine. it is normal to feel on edge. if your sister is older or has children of her own she'll be fine. if there are any problems she will call you. good luck, its hard the first time.

Alison - posted on 02/09/2009

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Kelly go and have a great time. Take pics of the little one (and an MP3 of him hungry crying... really helps with pumping let down) and pump as often as you can to maintain your supply. You can pump and dump :-( or freeze it. Check out breatfeeding.com for more info. Even though you have enough stored... leave formula. You may know this, but babies take more milk in the bottle than they would normally at the breast because it is easier to get. I doubt he will not return to the boob when you are back. Your nursing relationship is well established at this point. Call whom ever is watching him when you are a couple of hours from returning (so that they know and don't give him a huge meal before you return) so that he can be really hungry when you get home and you can nurse him right when you get home. You may find that your supply dips a bit, but it should bounce right back. If not, consult your LC or Breastfeeding.com has great info to help out.

Enjoy the time away, good nights sleep and call your son when you need to. He needs to hear you too. Remember, it is good for both of you to have time with other people.

Jennifer - posted on 02/09/2009

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I left my daughter with her grandmother for the same length of time when she was 9 mos old. I thought it was really hard to keep up the supply, even with pumping and we had to supplement with formula when I got back,. She didn't seem to mind at all and she was weened about a month later. I was kind of bummed because I had planned to nurse her until one year, but she was on mostly solid foods by then, so we weened her straight to a sippy cup and that worked out well.

Leisa - posted on 02/09/2009

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I actually am planning my honey moon with my soon to be husband...and leaving our twins (8 months) for 4 nights...Im extremely nervous...but not about the breastfeeding thing, but more about my own person seperation anxiety with them....i have this complex that they're going to forget about their mommy while im gone....i would like some opinions on this as well. I have even considered not going..because of this fear of them forgettingme.

Karen - posted on 02/09/2009

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I left my son at this age for about a week. He was left with his grandmother and older brother, so it was not a problem at all. I believe every child reacts differently to every situation depending on their personality. More than likely, you are going to have a harder time with this separation than your son. I would make sure your son has toys, blankets, etc. that will comfort him during your absence. As for the breastfeeding and pumping, just make sure you pump as many times during the day as you would feed him. When you return home, it may take some prompting to get him to take to breastfeeding again, but it will happen. Just spend a good bit of one on one time with him and make yourself available to breastfeed whenever he wants. I have three children, and I left two out of the three for a week and both were just fine. And, the grandmothers have never forgotten this very special time with their grandchild. Go and have a great time! I'm sure your sister will take wonderful care of her nephew!

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