my husband and i want to get pregnant

Destiny - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 46 moms have responded )

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however my periods are real irregular and we have been trying for a year.

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Ronni - posted on 04/03/2010

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I agree with Sarah Gagnon try that week after your period, also I discovered my peak time of the year and my husband's. We conceived our 1st daughter right away during my husband's peak time and our second daughter fairly soon during my peak time. The timing will work it's way and also try not to stress too much.

Keri - posted on 02/27/2010

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take a baby aspirin every day and see if that helps. When I was going to prenatal classes (all 3 times) many of the moms said that they'd had to try for awhile and then they heard from others that taking Bayer baby aspirin helped others so they gave it a try and it worked. After hearing how many people it helped, I am a firm believer in it. Good Luck.

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Sure - posted on 10/15/2012

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sure: im maaaried recently so i dnt wanaaa get concive fasyly i waannaa take time fr 1yr. & and i should go regular sex with my husband .

Niki - posted on 03/07/2010

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I was told at 19, I would have a very hard time getting pregnant due to a hormone in balance brought on by birth control pills. After 2 years of marriage, my ob-gyn put me on fertility drugs and after 3 months of the therapy he said we could try & was blessed after about a months time. I now have 2 adult children and am a grandmother of 1. So keep trying and talk openly to your ob-gyn. Best of Luck.

Holly - posted on 03/06/2010

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I used a fertility moniter which tells you when you ovulate. It was pretty acurate, and it worked! We have two babies and one on the way. Well worth the money! Thanks to the moniter, it helped me detect on my own when I ovulate, I can now tell just by my bodily symptom.

Gracie - posted on 03/05/2010

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Hello; DO NOT GIVE UP!!! my husband and I were unable to get pregnant for 10 yrs and I have PCOS like many women now a days. I some how snapped and just gave up worked out and just decided you know what I guess being a mom is not for me. And only to find out in 2007 I was 6 months pregnat :) Of course I was over the moon and mostly in denial that this wasn't real and as soon as I told my family I blew up :) Just hang in there and it will happen any questions do not hesitate to ask gracieshipp@att.net

Chelsea - posted on 03/03/2010

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try laying on ur back for at least a half hour after intercourse.... i hear that can work

Lillian - posted on 03/02/2010

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I have had the same problem. I also have irregular periods. I was diagnose with PCOS. However, I am fortunate enough to say that I successfully conceived with Clomid.

Clomid is a ovulation pill that is often prescribed with Provera. Provera is a pill that brings on your cycle. You take Provera for 10 days when your cycle comes on you take the Clomid on day 5 through day 9. There is 2% chance of having twins while taking the Clomid.

I conceived three times with Clomid. The first time I was pregnant with twins. I lost twins due to a high risk pregnancy. It only took me a couple of months to conceived them. My other two pregnancies took a month. Since I have taken these two medications I have conceived on my own unexpectedly two times. Now I am a proud mother of four. Good luck!

Tana - posted on 02/28/2010

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my bf and i thought we couldnt have kids because we had been having sex for almost 2 years and was not doing anything to stop us from having a baby and i never got pregnant when i brought this up to him because i wanted to have one he said the only way to know was to have sex as much as we can about 3 weeks later i was pregnant. so i guess what i am sain is u cant try to time it you never know when that egg will drop just have sex as much as u can when ever u can. Good Luck!!!!!!!!

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I have irregular periods as well due to PCOS. We took clomid for the first 4 kids ( 3& 4 were twins). Each time took a higher dose in order for me to ovulate. Helpful tips: Track your cycle with www.TCOYF.com I highly recommend this program and book. (Taking Care of your Fertility). I also recommend going on the South Beach Diet or something similar with low carbs because carbs will only intensify your irregular cycles. My 5th child was concieved with no medical help. I have been on Mannatech products for several years. Two years after I began these wonderful supplements, we were able to concieve our daughter with only one month of trying--as opposed to 2 years of trying with each of the others!

Mindy - posted on 02/28/2010

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my husband and i didn't prevent ;) for almost 2 years and i was very irregular... like, i'd go 6-7 months w/o a cycle. in october 2008 we both started taking this stuff called vemma, pronounced vee-ma, you can look it up at www.vemma.com. anyway, around sept/oct 08 we decided that we really wanted to really TRY to get pregnant so i looked up some natural supplements to help me get irregular so that i could ovulate. i came across fertilaid online, you can google that as well, and i was really impressed with the reviews of women who were in my same situation who got pregnant right away, even after failing on clomid! so i told my friend (who turned us on to the vemma and is also an RN) about the fertilaid, showed her the website and the supplement information. we compared it with the vemma, and it turns out they contained almost the exact same thing! so this conversation with her happened right around nov 2, 2008, which is the day i got my period for the first time since like may of that year, and we counted ovulation days, tried that month, and found out dec 14th that we were pregnant with our first baby! she was born july 22 and she is the most wonderful thing that's ever happened to us! now that she is 7 months old we have been talking about trying again in the near future, like after her birthday b/c we want our babies to be close in age. i am also positive we will need the vemma again b/c i haven't had any real period since i had her and i am not breastfeeding or anything. so i'm sure my irregularities are back! the only thing is the vemma is like $60 for one month supply, and my husband and i would both take it and it's not really in our budget! so tonight while shopping at sam's club, we found this supplement that is almost exactly the same thing! looks the same, tastes the same, comes in the same 32 oz. bottle, has the same ingredients and everything! but it only costs $12 for a one month supply! it is called 'liquid life' and they also have a website. www.liquidlife.com. needless to say we bought it and we will hopefully be welcoming baby number two sometime in 2011! good luck to you future mommy!

Michelle - posted on 02/27/2010

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I had a problem like yours. I decided that I wanted a baby, Sperm lasts inside you for 4 days so I just made sure we had sex every 4 days at least. I was pregnant with my son right away and didnt realize. Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 02/27/2010

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Hi Destiny:
I would recommend that you speak with your OB on this. They will probably need to test you to see if their is anything blogging your tubes...I watch the View yesterday morning and their was a doctor on their talking about woman who are not able to get pregnent after trying for 1 year. It is possible. The doctors can help with advice.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/27/2010

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I also have PCOS. My periods, if any, have always been very irregular. My dr put me on birth control for a while to regulate, then when that didn't help, we did Metformin and Clomid, then since I had so many cysts on my ovaries, we opted to do something called ovarian drilling surgery to help jump start ovulation. I immediately got pg, but had a miscarriage, then after more met and another drug called Femara, we almost gave up, (I didn't ovulate 12-14 days after, as you're supposed to), dr made me come in after 8 weeks (6 weeks after I should have ovulated), pg test was neg so he gave me one last rx for the med to make your period start (as others have mentioned) BUT before I made it to the pharmacy, the nurse called and said that my results had CHANGED and I needed to come back immediately. I was pregnant!! I ovulated 7 weeks after my last period. ANYTHING can happen. I know it's really hard, but I also know that with faith and good drs, miracles do happen. Which ever path you choose, make sure you are choosing the one you feel most comfortable with, and try to be patient. It's so hard when everyone around you is getting pg without trying and here you are, trying, and nothing. If you ever need to vent or want to ask questions, just msg me! Best of luck!!

Mandy - posted on 02/27/2010

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I have an issue that is called PCOS that causes this to happen. I would recommend talking to your GYNO and seeing what he/she says. Then you can use ovulation predictor kits to see when you are ovulating. I would also start on prenatal vitamins and 1000mg of fish oil which will help you body get the vitamins it needs. You may need as I did to get on a ovulation stimulant such as Clomid to help you ovulate regularly.

Jennifer - posted on 02/27/2010

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The ovulation test kit worked for me, I fell pregnant the first month I used it.

Erin - posted on 02/25/2010

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I have never had regular periods. It took my husband and I two years to get pregnant. I also have PCOS and it is very hard to get pregnant for most women. My Ob/Gyn put me on Clomid. After 6 rounds I was pregnant with my son. I would suggest going to your doc, since it's been a year of trying. Good luck to you dear, I hope the best for you:)

Marissa - posted on 02/25/2010

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dont give up hope. Before i fell pregnant, i hadnt seen my period in six months.. i went to the gyny and he gave me a pill which basically brought it on, and cleared everything out (he said it acted like a false pregnancy)... and anyone who has been pregnant can tell you that post birth is your most fertile! maybe discuss this as an option with your gp and get a referral to a specialist. Hope isnt lost xoxoxo

Susan - posted on 02/25/2010

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May be a "wive's tale" but---no hot tubs for your man, no tighty whitey undies either! And, cut down on your caffeine intake, try not to stress, just have fun with the process. And be sure that you always, always have sex when you are ovulating! Some books will tell you that if you get into an inverted position right afterwards (rest against a wall with your legs up towards the ceiling!!) lol that will help those sperm swim in the right direction! (hey some folks will try anything and everything, right?) If you still can't get pregnant maybe ask for a referral to a fertility specialist. Good luck!!

Adri - posted on 02/25/2010

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My periods were extremely light and very irregular but I was able to conceive my daughter in 4 months.

Chelsea - posted on 02/25/2010

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Have you been tested for PCOS? It is a hormone thing. I was diagnosed many years ago. It can make getting pregnant difficult, but not impossible. My husband and I tried for about 10 years, including fertility treatments and whatnot. We were blessed to get pregnant on our own out of the blue, and I delivered a beautiful baby boy in December.

Carly - posted on 02/25/2010

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Hi Destiny! i had the same thing- i was (stll do get very iregular periods) and wasn't ovulating.My partner and i tried 4yrs before our Logan came along.My advice from personal experience is not to let it get to you that it takes over your life and that only males your more stressed and doesnt' help you to concive.Relax and it will happen when you least expect-as happened to me lol.... Best of Luck!!!!!!!!!! Hope to be seeing a post in the future saying that your pregnant!!

carly

Jini - posted on 02/24/2010

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Hi Destiny... I've also always had irregular periods and have polycystic ovarian syndrome but it didn't take a lot for me to get pregnant... in fact, it was a surprise when I found out... one thing that the doctors have told me might have helped my case was that I was on the pill for about 6 months and then stopped taking the pill... my doctor said that immediately after getting off the pill, you ovulate... and that's when we conceived!! I have a 2 and a half year old that is the light of our lives and though my periods are still irregular and I am not currently on the pill, my husband and I are very careful so as not to conceive right now....

Good luck and God Bless...
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Bonnie - posted on 02/24/2010

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I would go to the library and get a book on natural fertility boosters(basil body temperature charts will tell you when you are ovulating)if your periods are irregular it will be harder to time your ovulation's.The ovulation sticks work well too.If you use them for a few months with no success talk to your OBGYN.They will run a few tests and will probably give you Clomid if all is well (I took this). Its not invasive it just helps regulate your cycles.My only regret is telling people that I took it.Sometime people make insensitive and uneducated remarks because they dont understand how the medication works.The constant remarks on getting pregnant from people who knew we had been trying for a long time were annoying too.The next time I TTC I kept it between myself my husband and a select few friends/family but thats harder to do with your first child because everyone wants to know when you'll be starting a family.Good luck.You are a beautiful couple :-)

Andrea - posted on 02/24/2010

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I would definitely see a fertility specialist. They'll do tests to determine if there is a medical issue causing you not to get pregnant. We ended up having to do IVF to have our sons as my husband had a genetic condition causing our infertility.

Melanie - posted on 02/24/2010

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dear destiny,

i would highly recommend starting to chart using the sympto-thermal method. this will help you discover if you have any fertility issues, and there are ways to naturally overcome them if you do have them. you didn't mention if you were already doing that.

i'd be happy to give you more resources if you would like them. it sounds like it's time to get more in tune with your body, to figure out what is going on.

in the meantime, try not to panic. stress is the worst.

Emily - posted on 02/24/2010

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Same situation for me as you have, Are you overweight any? In your picture it does not seem that way but it's hard to tell. That can be a cause of irregular periods... Which could explain why your not getting prego... And Janina Lotscher hit it on the head when she said polycysitc ovarian syndrome. I have that too. Look it up on www.webmd.com and see if you have any of the symptoms. Worth talking to your ob about it if so. Good luck!

Andria - posted on 02/23/2010

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I would try reading the book Taking Charge of your Fertility. I read it and I didnt really understand how to do it. But its worth looking into. It tells you how to listen to your body. Tells you when to have sex and all the right times by what your body is doing. I would also look into talking to a doctor. Most likly nothing is wrong but I wouldnt rule out that option. If it helps everytime I got pregnant I was on top if that helps haha... Good Luck!!

Abbie - posted on 02/23/2010

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Tabitha any doctor will tell you every other day is better as the male needs to build up sperm and mature ones at that and prenatals don't make you more likely to get pregnant they only provide the vitamins your body needs to make you healthy.



Destiny you need to find a doctor that specializes in fertility issues. There are ways to help regulate you period. They might put you on a low dose birth control to regulate it. They may also check your thyroid as that controls hormones and your period. It might be something simple that can be corrected. My periods are normal but I don't ovulate as I should. So after multiple tests we have started using clomid, which makes you ovulate. Its not a spendy treatment, you need to have your ovaries checked via a transvaginal ultrasound (( there are visable signs if you are ready to ovulate)), then you have sex, get the clomid shot, wait 2 days, sex again, wait another 2 days sex again.



its not a sure fire plan but it does help many women to get pregnant. You need to find a good doctor!!!! Best of luck in this, its a long heartbreaking process. Ignore the advice of stop trying. It only pisses off a person who is trying!

Tabitha - posted on 02/23/2010

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My first and ONLY suggestion is have intercourse 3-4 times a day for a whole month if NOTHING atleast 2 times a day. It worked for me after trying for 3 months straight and before than i didnt try NOT to get pregnant for 2 yrs. Meaning for 2 yrs I did nothing to prevent it, than when tried it took 3 months and 1 month of 3-4 times daily. Also take prenatals that will help you to be fertal.

Sandy - posted on 02/23/2010

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Sorry forgot to mention my periods were irregular too. Acupuncture helps to regulate so that you can better gauge when you are fertile...it takes a few months though so you have to be patient. I started acupuncture three months prior to my IVF cycles. Look up acupuncture & fertility for a doctor close to where you live. My acupuncturist is in Mississauga, Ontario.

Sandy - posted on 02/23/2010

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We tried for seven years. After two unsuccessful fertility treatments I decided to try everything and anything which included acupuncture to regulate my periods and increase blood flow to the uterus (it also helped to relax me), cut out all bad carbs from my diet such as bread and pasta, started a light exercise program, drank more green tea and ate pineapple every morning (whether it was fresh or from a can). I can't tell you which of these were the magic remedy but the third IVF treatment worked and nine months later I was blessed with a baby boy. 16 months later, we tried again and now I have my twins. One other thing that I did was keep all negative thought at bay. I kept telling myself I was pregnant even before I did the treatments. It kept me focused.



Good luck to you. I pray you have good news soon :)

Evelyn - posted on 02/23/2010

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You're trying to get pregnant with the help of your husband you mean? phew...okay, just kidding. I'd advice you see a dr if you haven't yet and if it's still irregular...do it as often as you can! Hope to share your good news very soon.

RicaMarie - posted on 02/23/2010

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Well me and my spouce have tried for over 9 yrs. I ended up having a sist on my overy that was taken care of and the dr told me i was all clear to have children and still no luck , even after buying all the books , i already eat healthy , i take prenatal vitiamans i quit smoking, i did everything i was supose to even tracked my periods and made sure we hit it on the 10,12,and 14th day, wasted my money on the kits and did it when they told us to. and still no luck. My spouce is against any non nautal way of having a child. he thinks that if its ment to happen it will happen and i have to agree with him. i think if your ment to have children then it will happen the natural way with out drs and meds and all that unnatrual way of having children. i think that is forceing a child to happen. If God wants us to have a child then he will bless us with one. I wish you good luck and hope you go about it the Natural way and Good Luck. I have a 11 yr old so i have Been blessed once. Guess another child is not in the cards for us.

Christine - posted on 02/23/2010

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My ob put me on Clomid and he said have fun (i am not joking at that either) I have ovarian cysts, It took me about 3 years to get pregnant and as soon as i was put on Clomid i was pregnant by the 2nd round. My periods were irregular like yours, Get yourself check out by your doctor.

Carly - posted on 02/23/2010

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Same as me, I don't suffer with POS though, I'm just real irregular! When we decided we'd like to try for a baby, I knew I may come up against a few brick walls as I couldn't track my ovulation date so me & my partner literally did it everyday! I know it can become boresome, the same thing over & over & in the end it did seem like we was just doing it as a chore rather than enjoyment but thats the measure's we had to take if we wanted a baby with my problem. I was pregnant within 4 months of trying :)

Emily - posted on 02/23/2010

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sorry i can not be much help giving you advice but i can tell you good luck and i will pray for you :)

Roberta - posted on 02/23/2010

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i had 2 of my friends get pregnant after drinking this juice that i discovered when living in canada.
email me at roberta@roberta-whitney.com and i can send you some information. it may work for you too! its natural and organic so it won't do any harm to you or baby.
look forward to hearing from you.
roberta

Kira - posted on 02/23/2010

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Me and my hubbie tryed for 5yrs till we finally got prego. I went to a doctor for fertily and they gave me a HSG.. it cleans ur tubes and everything its weird.. But I still wasnt pregnant and was getting verry aggravated about it sooo I gotta a dogg... after the dog I was prego 2wks lata cuz It took my mind off of wanting a baby... U should try it Im sure it will help cuz once U take ur miond off it. thats when it happends

Maggie - posted on 02/23/2010

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sounds like a discussion you need to have with your doctor. There might be something they can do to make your periods more regular. Your ovulation would then be more regular and predictable as well.

Karen - posted on 02/23/2010

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hi there! i know what you're going through, my husband and i tried for almost five years before we were successful....what we found out in the end from doing some research was caffeine and alcohol can be a cause of "unexplained infertility" (which is what, after hundreds of tests, we were diagnosed with). both of us went completely caffeine free and three months later i was pregnant. i shared this with a friend of mine who was also having problems and a couple months later they as well were expecting. another thing is, did you ever get your insulin levels checked? (it's different then blood sugar levels) if they are a little off it could have an effect on your cycle. my dr never though to check those until i was three years into it and it turned out mine were a little off of normal and i needed a prescription (metformin) to correct it. and i had been told by my specialist that accupuncture can also help...some specialize in accupuncture for infertility and healthy pregnancy. good luck! i hope you find something that will work

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My periods were irregular forever. I got married when I was 19 and we had long given up on having children. 18 years later, out of nowhere, God blessed me with a baby. Best of luck to you, it could take years. Side note, my periods have been clockwork since the baby was born ;)

Sarah - posted on 02/23/2010

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Take a vacation...I have gotten pregnant the last two times I took a vacation. You could also try those ovulation detection kits they tell you when you are ovulating so you are more likely to know when to try to get pregnant. Also the 12th-14th day after your period, even if your period is irregular, is when you are most likely to get pregnant.

Good luck

Janina - posted on 02/23/2010

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sounds exactly like me! i have polycysitc ovarian syndrome, and it took us a while to get pregnant as well!! i went to a naturopath who specialises in the disorder, he put me on a very strict diet and exercise regime and it really did help! we now have a beautiful 6 week old little girl!! all the best of luck!!!!!!

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