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I want to get any info on adoption from anyone who has gone through the prosess. Even at a very young age I knew that I wanted to have a big family. I always thought I would have a couple of children of my own and then extend my family by giving a home to a child, maybe two children who needed a home.
I love children and I was told from a very young age that I could never have children. (I was crushed but wasn't going to gve up) I am a diabetic (type 1) I have always had a hard time controlling my blood sugar, and I have been on an insulin pump since I was about 15. I also have Endometriosis and have had 4 surgerys but it keeps coming back and each time it's worse than the time before. I had 3 doctors tell me that I would probably never have children and even a fertility doctor said he couldn't help me. I took the news hard, and it started to take a tole on my health. I was starting to get sick all the time and I was about to go on lupron (A drug to shut down my reproductive orgens to stop the Endometriosis) Well the day I got the call that my insurance was going to cover the drug I got a strange feeling that I should take a pregnancy test. Even though I thought I was crazy I took it and almost hit the floor when PREGNANT was in the results window!! I was in shock, but it was the happiest day of my life. My husband and I were thrilled and told everyone. Sadly our happiness was short lived because I lost the baby 2 days before Thanksgiving. We were crushed, but tried to move on. I kept getting sick and everytime I saw a dr they said it was stress from the loss of the baby. I was throwing up all the time, had headaches and I thought I was crazy but felt more pregnant then than I ever did. So at the end of December I went back to my ob and told him what was going on. He did blood work, and an ultrasound. He told me that the blood work showed that I was not pregnant and nothing was found on the ultrasound. He gave me some meds to help with the vomiting and told me again that it was stress. I knew in my heart something else was going on and they were missing something. One week went by and I was sicker than ever so I took a pregnancy test, and it was POSSATIVE! I took 3 more throughout the day and they all came back saying Pregnant. When I went to the dr 6 weeks later I was 11weeks 2 days pregnant. The doctor couldn't believe it. I was in fact pregnant and they missed it not only through blood work, but also ultrasound.
My pregnancy was high risk and very hard on my. I developed Proliferative Diabetic Retinopathy at 20 weeks. It is a disease of the eye and pregnancy causes it to progress faster. I had to go to have weekly painful lazer treatments done and had to have surgery on my right eye because I went a week only being able to see shapes. I couldn't even see my husbands face. I thought I was going to go blind. My vision go better but was told that I should not have anymore children because if I do I will lose my sight. I want to be able to see my son grow up so we are not going to risk a second pregnancy.
So I now have my beautiful baby boy who I thought I would never have, but I want to have more children through adoption. I want my son to have a little brother or sister, and we have so much love to give. I want to wait until my son is about 2 years old but I know the adoption prosess is a long one so I don't know how long I should wait. My son is almost 5 months old now.
I also don't know where to start. I have heard that it cost upwards of 10,000 dollars to adopt, and even though we are not poor we don't have that kind of money to put up all at once. Is it easier to adopt in the US or in another country? Race is not a factor with us so we are willing to adopt from anywhere in the world. We were thinking about China just because we heard you can get a child faster, and it doesn't cost as much but like I said we have no idea.
Sooo where do we start? Where do we go? Any advice would be great! We need all the help we can get.