My husband confessed to me that he "touched" our daughter..

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So, my husband has been reading this book and it has opened his eyes to alot of things he has done wrong.. he wants to change his life.. So first he came to me and told me that he had lied to me about a time he was out of town. He drank and went to a strip club with some of his bosses. And also that he had a pornography problem.. so bad that he would lust after women and basically cheat on me in his mind... Well today comes the biggest blow, he came to me and told me that one day he when he was in his "lusting phase" (6 months ago) he touched our daughter. He told me he was tickling her and then touched her on purpose, but stopped himself.. I just don't know what to do ... he told me he think she just thought he was tickling her it was just a part of tickling?? He has only done it once.. and said it will never happen again.. can I get some advice??


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GET OUT!!! honestly love has to come after the care and protection of your child. He can never be trusted to be around you daughter. You have to realize she is defenseless you are her protection. If you do not get him away from her he will do it again and again. Are you really going to sit by and watch as he ruins your child's life. Believe me it ruins lives even if it only happens once. GET AWAY.... don't do it for you do it for your daughter you are her protector you are her mom. He needs help.

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Dove - posted on 11/21/2012




You and your daughter need to get away from him right now. If he gets and stays in counseling then MAYBE he could eventually be allowed supervised visits, but at this point I'm thinking.... not a chance.

Him coming clean to you is kind of a 'good' sign, but he needs serious professional help. Your first job is to keep your child safe and I wouldn't trust him alone with her again for anything in this world.

Lacye - posted on 11/21/2012




Do you really have to ask? First you need to let him know that he needs to go seek professional help. Then you need to kick him out of the house and protect your daughter. After that I would suggest calling a divorce lawyer and start getting things situated.

For God's sake, he touched your daughter inappropriately. Why would you want to stay with a man that admitted that he has done this before?

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