My husband doesn't love our daughter

Afshan - posted on 05/02/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I m mom of three beautiful daughters my eldest one is 5.5 years n I never felt any good connection between her n my husband..he is nice to other two girls but really strict to my older one..it feels like he just find out reasons to be rude to her n makes her feel bad n sometimes he hits her as well which is so bad for her mental growth,she feels this difference n it's creating bad impact on her..she's the best student in her class,well mannered and good in studies too but her father never appreciates

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Amber - posted on 05/03/2016

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You are NOT bringing your girls up in a "happy family" with him treating your eldest like that. Either you need to set him straight or leave.

Afshan - posted on 05/03/2016

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Yes Michelle he is controlling..sometimes I do think I should go live on my own but I don't have much sources and plus I want my kids upbringing in a happy family.i try to keep her as much busy as I can..this way she will learn new things and will be at peace on her own as well

Michelle - posted on 05/03/2016

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He is abusive and controlling.
Do you want your daughters to grow up thinking that that's how a man should treat women?
I don't care that he's a clean freak, children need to play and mess comes with that. If he doesn't like it then he should live on his own. That way he can control his own surroundings without abusing others.

Afshan - posted on 05/03/2016

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Yeah evelyn he is the birth father..I stopped him a lot of times but he never listens and asks me to shut up.i feel later he realises but this is making our relationship worse because of this conflict

Afshan - posted on 05/03/2016

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I have tried to explain this several times that how I feel and how's she's becoming distant from her father,he will be fine for few days but then again he will do the same..he's a clean freak every time he wants home to be neat n clean n that kids should not play in the house or if they play they should not make mess i try my best to keep the house clean but offcourse sometimes kids should enjoy the comfort of their home so offcourse they play it also makes mess n that is intolerable for him..my daughter is scared of her father whenever he hits her she never tells me until n unless I see any scarves on her body..I took stand a lot of time but he says u r the one spoiling her and I won't let this happen..what to do I don't understand.

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Afshan you have to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel and how its affecting your daughter's life. you have to stand for your daughter, PLEASE DON'T LET YOUR HUSBAND HIT YOUR DAUGHTER AND SPEAK RUDE THINGS TO HER, that is your duty as a mom to protect your daughter from anyone, and make sure that you show comfort when she feels unloved and unappreciated, you have to explain to your daughter why her father is doing those things. it breaks my heart to read stories like this involving children, they don't deserve to feel unloved, they should be happy, comfortable and feel secured at home esp with their parents!

Ev - posted on 05/02/2016

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First, is he their birth father?
My other concern is his hitting her. WHY do you allow it? That is child abuse and he should be turned in.

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