my husband doesnt help me with nothing not even take out the trash barly spends time with the kids granted he works but we need some of his time also and i need some help with thelittle ones am i wrong what should i do please help!!!

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JuLeah - posted on 11/10/2011

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He works? What you don't work?

So, you are the maid, the cook. You shop, you do all child care, you are the driver the clothes washer, home repair person .... take care of meal planning, buy clothes for the growing chidlren, get them hair cuts, take them to the doctor .....

How much does he pay you?

Charge just $10 and hr and add up your hours for the week - then give him the bill

He sounds like a big baby - spoild brat who thinks just of himself

And you sound like a signle parent which is not what you signed on for - wasn't it "Let's have kids" when all this started? And now you are doing it all by your lonesome.

Real fathers spend time with their kids, read to them, play with them, help with homework, volunteer in their schools, comfort them after a bad dream, make them eat their veggies, give them baths, brush their teeth, wash the stains out of their clothes, clean up vomit, make school lunches, wash dishes with them after dinner .... real dads do these things - I know cause I have read about it

Sharlene - posted on 11/10/2011

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I agree with Michelle sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel and see if he can look after the kids one afternoon for you time.all the best

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User - posted on 07/24/2012

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When he comes you should say i'm going for a run take care of the kids, go to the park for about an hour and read a good book. Do this once a week, it'll also give you time for yourself..also its not like you can take the kids running ;)



No offense but your husband sounds like a complete asshole. My husband once worked 7days a week 12hour days and still came home cooked dinner and played with our son, cleaned the kitchen while i bathed our son then he read him a bed time story so i could have time to myself. I feel awful for you x

Bobmusicgirl4 - posted on 07/16/2012

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I'm not sure what kind of person you are- a neat freak, etc...but what I would suggest is letting things slide for a few days and see what your husband has to say. I'm sure he would have something to say and that would be the time to bring up the issue. If he wants things a certain way, you are not his personal house keeper- you are his wife and the mother of his children and a real person who does need help with things. For example, if you do his laundry- stop doing it. Going on strike helped my hubby realize he needed to get off his butt and do something about it because he knew I wouldn't.

Julie - posted on 11/15/2011

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Go get a job for a few hours a day when he'll be off so he can watch them and you can have a break from housework.

Justina - posted on 11/15/2011

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YES I HAVE SAT DOWN WITH HIM AND TALKED ABOUT HOW I FEEL PLENTY OF TIMES AND I GET THE SAME THING IM SORRY HONEY I WILL TRY TO DO MORE THAN JUST AND TRY TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH THE BABY'S SOMETIMES IT WILL LAST A FEW DAYS AND EVERYTHING IS GOOD BUT THEN HE GOES ON BEING THE SAME WAY HE WAS IT HAS GOTTEN TO THE POINT THAT I DON'T EVEN BOTHER TO ASK HIM TO DO ANYTHING IF I WAS TO GO ON STRIKE MY BABES WOULD STARVE THE BABES DIAPER WOULDN'T GET CHANGED I DON'T EVEN THINK HE KNOWS HOW TO CHANGE A DIAPER LET ALONE GIVE THEM BATHS I WANT TO SMACK HIM WITH THE FRIER PAN MAYBE HE WILL WAKE UP I FEEL LIKE SCREAMING HIS ANSWER FOR EVERYTHING IS WELL WHO IS GONNA PAY THE BILLS

Michelle - posted on 11/10/2011

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Have you sat down and discussed it with him? He may not know how you feel. We know that men aren't great at picking up subtle hints.

Make sure that when you do talk to him about that you don't sound like you're nagging him. Let him know that you realise he works outside the home all day but you are feeling very overwhelmed having to orgainze everything at home.

If that fails, go on strike for a day and see how he copes with it all.

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